When do you plan on telling people/your other children?

[Snowflakes1122]

Curious when everyone is going to share their baby news?

I was really hoping to make it to 20 weeks before we told the kids and family etc, but I am struggling to hide my emerging bump at 15 weeks.

Shared at around 12 weeks.
Out of interest, why are you waiting until 20 weeks?

12 weeks

We lost one after a good scan with a “healthy heartbeat” at 11 weeks, and had to have medical management at 13 weeks(MMC). Kids were devastated, so I wanted to get a little further along. It was horrible telling them.

Ah, that's not easy, I am sorry.

How old are your older kids, OP? Are they likely to notice your bump as much as an adult would? My sil is currently pregnant and while she shared the news with most family between 12 and 16 weeks she didn't tell her three year old until 20 weeks. Of course she had to say to family not to tell DD1 but we were all happy to oblige.

Alternatively you could go for a private scan at 16 weeks and, assuming all well, tell your older children after that?

Personally I waited till 12 weeks to share and that was that but I think I'd have been reluctant to tell a young child even then. I got pregnant with DC2 when DC1 had just turned 1, so too young to understand regardless.

I'm going to try and make it to 20 weeks without telling anyone (except MIL - we're very close and I told her at 6 weeks) just because I could do without the chat. My mother is very overbearing, and has some views about not wanting me to have a second child (linked to her own bad childhood experiences). Also I'm 41, and want to make sure everything is ok at the anatomy scan.

We told everyone at 17 weeks. Wanted to get the anomaly scan done first but mil saw me in Tesco buying pregnancy vitamins 🤦🏼‍♀️

We didn't tell people until well after the 20 week scan. It's just each to their own.
With children I'd try to hold off as long as possible, even without any history as they just want the baby now, concept of time is difficult.
OP sorry for your previous loss. Hope this pregnancy goes well.

Told family at 20 weeks after amniocentesis result was clear. Friend spotted the bump at 21 weeks. I'm amazed that nobody noticed as I started out with a twin pregnancy and was huge really early.

With first six weeks. It was Christmas Day and we had told them we were engaged on Christmas Day the year before.
With my second we waited until 12 weeks as I was 43. But if I'd miscarried I would have told my family at least so in one sense I could have told them earlier. I can't remember when we told the other kids (my son was not yet a year but my husband had two teens) but I think we told them the same time. Telling his ex was slightly more difficult!

Thanks everyone.

Eldest in mid GCSES, so will definitely hold off at least until she finishes.