Is this the wrong time to tell my friend I’m pregnant?

[SunnyDay53]

Hi everyone, I was wondering if I could get anyone’s opinion on whether this would be the right time to tell my friend I’m pregnant (this is my first pregnancy so I’m reaching out to those more experienced than me!) ☺️

I have a friendship group of several women and am meeting up with two of them next weekend and am planning on telling them I’m pregnant. (Timing it after the 12-week scan). There’s another friend who can’t make it as she has just given birth just over a week ago. I am going to see her little one for the first time, the day before I meet up with the other two.

I initially thought I shouldn’t tell the friend who has just given birth as it’s the first time I’m meeting her little one, and I wanted it to feel like it was her special moment, and didn’t want to steal any kind of thunder with my news. I was going to tell the two friends at the weekend, and then message the others afterwards on our group chat. However, I didn’t expect to be seeing them one day after the other, so think it would look a bit odd to message the new mum friend the day after seeing her telling her I’m pregnant.

Am I being too mindful and overthinking, and it’s actually not a big deal?

thanks for any advice 😊

You're really overthinking this, so I'd just try and relax.

Your friend will be delighted for you, but I can assure you she will have a million and one other things to think of and the thought of you "stealing her thunder" won't enter her head for a second. Life is not a competition. She'll be happy for you, as will your other friends I'm sure!!

Maybe tell her towards the end of your visit? If it were me, I'd rather be told face to face, but I get what you mean about not wanting to steal her thunder. If she's a good friend though I'm sure she'll be nothing but excited for you!
Congratulations and good luck!

Yeah you're over thinking! If she's a normal person, she will be happy for you. There will be no room in her head for thoughts of thunder stealing, she'll still be on cloud 9/feeling/feeling basically drunk on all the emotion that comes from labour, birth and having a new born!

I think you are overthinking, yes. Maybe tell her towards the end of your vsit as pp says.

I wouldn’t walk straight in and announce it without giving her a bit of fuss, but I don’t think that’s a problem at all. I’ve got two DC and have had frienfs tell me they’re pregnant within days of DC’s birth both times, and each time I’m just super excited for them (and selfishly excited to have someone to talk baby stuff with!)

Thank you all, that’s really helpful - I’ll tell her towards the end of the visit ☺️