Feeling of guilt finding out i’m having twins whilst been on the IUD?

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Nice comments only please.
I have been on the IUD for just under a year. I did this due to having a baby so didnt want another child for a couple of years. Last month my period didnt come which was unusual. I took a test and it said positive. When i got to the hospital and they scanned me they told me i was having a twin birth.
My heart just dropped. Being a twin myself it hit so close to home for me. But i cant help but feel disconnected from my pregnancy. I had an extremely bad pregnancy last time which put me off anymore. Especially with my little one only just turning one and my partner working all hours. Has anyone else felt like this before? And what did you do?

I think you need to talk to someone quickly. Of course you're in shock and just starting to process. You haven't caught up with the news yet. How many weeks are you?

How old is your older child? What happens with the IUD? Do they remove it? Do you have a partner or someone to help talk options through with?

It's normal to feel gutted when you get pregnant if you do not want a baby / haven't been trying.

I was devastated when I got pregnant on the pill with my now 12 year old dd. However I decided I wanted to continue. I had had a termination previously and was being super cautious taking my pill. I found out I was pregnant at 3 months and had done a firearms course at around 6 weeks! I decided to continue but I do not regret my previous termination at all.

I have another scan next week to see if the babies have heartbeats. I think they said id be about 6 weeks now x

My other child is 14 months but she is still super dependant on me. I have a partner but its very hard to communticate as he didnt want any other children full stop where as i did want one more eventually. However i explained the thought of terminating a pregnancy would break my heart as i would feel so cruel and never forgive myself.

I wasnt trying last time with my little one but with her being my first it didnt matter. This time i feel like i have so much to consider. With my partner working all the time i feel as though i would struggle with twins and another child under 2. I had quite bad postnatal depression with my little one that I’ve just overcame. I just dont know what to do as i never expected to fall pregnant x

They removed my IUD as soon as they saw i was having twins xx

Many people feel that way. However it's not actually about keeping or ending a pregnancy. It's about wanting and caring for two new children. Do you want that?

If you decide to continue OP you could ask to be referred to perinatal mental health services (usually after 12 week scan) if you had bad PND last time. They should be able to help and support. All the best for you and your family. I can imagine it’s such a shock.

I would always care for them above all else. At this current moment I just don’t know if i can give them what they need. But i don’t know if thats the shock talking. With my little one they think i also had pre natal depression which im wondering is maybe returning. Its a lot to think youre protected to find out theres not only one but two

Thankyou so much for your help and your kind words! I will be sure to do that x

Whatever you decide, all the very best.