Please talk me down

[SicknessScare]

I'm having a little panic to myself. Now I know that each pregnancy is different but my first one I was really sick throughout. Up to my 12 week scan, and it resulted in an MMC.

My next one, I had almost no sickness throughout and birthed a healthy little girl.

Now I'm in my first trimester and the sickness has started to come on, I know people say the sicker the mum, the healthier the baby, however I haven't found that myself. So really, I am just wanting some reassurance from others that they've had a symptom free pregnancy followed by a healthy one with bad morning sickness as it just keeps taking me back and I'm petrified for the first scan (if I even get there!) I just keep having flashbacks 😢

As I say, I'm aware that symptoms don't really tell you anything about baby health, just hoping for some positive stories to get me out of my doom and gloom thinking.

Hi, I can completely appreciate your anxieties and sorry that you're feeling like this. It's understandable given the loss of your precious baby and the trauma associated with that but that doesn't make it any easier. My first experience was a seemingly healthy pregnancy with nausea for a few weeks but nothing too difficult. That pregnancy ended in a stillbirth at full term for no known reason - I'm not linking the minimal nausea with that but just saying what the pregnancy was like. Second pregnancy I was so unwell with nausea from before doing a test until around 14 weeks and baby is currently sleeping on me. Are you able to get an early scan due to your history of having a MMC for a little reassurance rather than having to wait for the 12 weeks?

I had three big babies and was very sick with all three, morning, noon, night and during the night, carrier bag in the car as I had to pull over so often 🤢

I stopped being sick at 38 weeks with my eldest, 37 weeks with my second and 35 weeks with my 3rd.

Good luck 💐

Thank you both!
Sunshine, I did have scans for my healthy baby due to having recurrent miscarriages before (however the other didn't reach sickness length) but as I've had a healthy child and this is my first pregnancy since, I'm not sure they will scan me for it. I might give the EPAU a call and see but I'm sure they'll say no, and I understand if there are more necessary scans needed.
It's about weighing up whether we can afford to pay for a scan and what week to do it at (with my MMC, we had had an early scan which showed a heartbeat and baby died a few weeks later so obviously nervous of having one too early)

My experience with sickness is generally the opposite to yours- sickness means all is good and no sickness tends to mean bad news. However, I’m pregnant with baby 4 now- 6 pregnancies- and I haven’t had any sickness whatsoever with this one. I didn’t with my MMCs either so I was paranoid as hell. Turns out that sickness isn’t necessarily a direct indicator of pregnancy success or not (or at least not for me). I can’t even say it’s a boy vs girl thing like some will undoubtedly say, as I was equally sick with my daughter vs both my sons. Keeping my fingers crossed for you!

Pregnancy after miscarriage is really hard OP. I've had 6 miscarriages so I understand how you must be feeling right now. In my experience, with the pregnancies that went to term I had nausea. With the ones that ended in MC I didn't have nausea or the nausea stopped. Other than weekly reassurance scans that will cost a lot, there's nothing you can do other than take one day at a time. I used to wake each day and tell myself "I'm still pregnant today". Good luck, I hope it all goes well for you x

Perfect, although it's the opposite, it's exactly what I needed to hear. I forgot about the boy/girl theory. Wonder if there'll be anything in that for me.

So sorry to hear about your difficulties but thank you so much for sharing!

That's so sad, I'm so sorry to hear that! I just need to hope there's no correlation for me. Need to resist the scans as much as possible, I think.