Feeling like I can’t cope with morning sickness and a toddler

[Nelly040]

I’m about 6 weeks pregnant and have a 2 year old DD. In the last week the morning sickness has kicked in full force. I’m not being sick but feel so nauseous and have this constant panicky feeling. I’m worried that I’m not being a good mum to my DD as don’t have the energy to play as much, and work is just awful when I’m there. I am on medication for anxiety but feel like it’s got a lot worse since becoming pregnant.

Also going on holiday on Sunday to lovely Portugal with friends, but I’m worried I’m going to ruin it for myself and others by feeling sick.

I am so grateful to be pregnant but I can’t help but feel like I have ruined everything for my DD.

Please help with any words of wisdom, how do I settle down and just get through the next few months?

She’s not going to be ruined because you have a few “lazy” days for a few weeks while you’re unwell. I promise.

Sorry no advice. But I'm following as I'm currently carrying baby number one. We want a second but I've no idea how I will look after a toddler and have a pregnancy.

By the time baby number 1 comes I will be 38 so it's not like I can wait untill baby is at school.

Congratulations!

I'm 10+3 and still feeling like this with my 20 month old dd. I had a great piece of advice for the worst days: get yourself propped up in bed for a few hours and have plenty of toys for your dd to play with nearby. Have some of her books to hand so you can read aloud to her too, so you know that you're interacting.

I'm in exactly the same position. 6 weeks pg, nauseous as hell, and exhausted - with a 21-month-old! Can't wait for this stage to pass.

It will pass. Just get through how you can and make up for it when you're feeling better! A few weeks of more TV or whatever you need to do won't do any harm.

If you are nauseous/sick all the time you probably have Hyperemesis - check out the pregnancy board - 'Hyperemesis support' thread.

I'm just entering my 3rd trimester and feeling better, but weeks 8-16 were absolute nightmare, I was on anti-sickness meds and had to be admitted once for re-hydration.
It's so hard with a toddler, I felt like a neglectful mother for months, even though DH stepped in and did everything.
Be kind to yourself, and keep explaining to the toddler that you are unwell because your body is making a baby, but you'll be well soon and then you'll do XYZ again.

My DD watched a lot of tv during weeks 6-12 of my pregnancy with DS and my panting skills were limited; I felt guilty but when I felt better I played with her and it really didn’t do any harm