Aibu

[northwester]

I'm now 10 weeks went to my first midwife appointment last week with DH.

The midwife asked a bunch of previous health related questions and one of them was whether this was my first pregnancy which I responded saying no. Prior to this, I've had a miscarriage 2 months ago and a termination when I was much younger.

I feel like this rubbed her off the wrong way because after this question, she became a bit cold and lost her initial friendly tone. I figured it was nothing but then we got to a point where she talked about a future appointment and said "we'll see you then...if you're still pregnant".

I don't know, but DH and I found this very insensitive. Especially as we're there hoping that all goes well, it just felt like such a crap thing to say to nervous parents-to-be. Am I overreacting?

This is so incredibly insensitive and unprofessional. Please submit a complaint regarding this.

Sorry you had to experience this.

YANBU
That is a disgraceful thing to say and disgustingly insensitive. I'm so sorry

It’s very insensitive and whilst it might be the reality that a lot of pregnancies don’t progress, she didn’t need to verbalise that.

Wow! What a bizarre comment to make. Very insensitive. I’m a midwife and just can’t imagine saying something like that

YANBU, I’d complain about that.

That's pretty insensitive I have had 2 miscarriages after one successful pregnancy and the midwife never said anything like that at the booking appointment for my third pregnancy which also ended in a miscarriage.

My first pregnancy she asked me if I definitely wanted the baby before she filled out all the paperwork which I though was very blunt as it was a very much planned and wanted pregnancy.