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AIBU at a festival with partner

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mummysept22 · 28/05/2022 07:10

Currently at a festival 6 months pregnant. I'm doing well but obviously not as lively as usual and heading off to bed earlier than everyone else. My partner and I spoke about how it would work when we were here mainly about the fun stuff. We agreed he could have 'one night'. Mainly just so I wasn't the only one sober and going off to bed early. Second day he is asking 'do you mind....' which was really annoying cause I just feel like his mother telling him what to do. I suppose I'm upset that he just doesn't want to spend time with just me. But then on the other hand it's been three years out of a field and away from all our friends and the fun stuff so I get it too. I just think of some of our other friends who have had children recently and there's no way they would be sat here at 7am and their partner still hasn't come back to the tent!! He was really good with me yesterday looking after me and seeing the things I wanted to but it just feels like it was keeping me sweet so I would agree to last night 😂
We agreed that tonight would be 'his night' but it's just turned into the whole weekend.
I know I should just be the cool wife and be like do whatever you want but it has annoyed me!
Be honest!! Im aware i'm being a bit selfish 😂
Be good to get opinions x

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BritInUS1 · 28/05/2022 07:13

I think if you are somewhere like that you shouldn't be restricting what he can do

Let him enjoy it

Harridan1981 · 28/05/2022 07:13

I'm far from a cool wife, but I'd let him get on with it.

JubileeQueen · 28/05/2022 07:15

If you're at a festival with friends I'd let him get on with it and not restrict what he can and cannot do there.

DistrictCommissioner · 28/05/2022 07:16

Sorry, I think YABU.

MolliciousIntent · 28/05/2022 07:16

To be honest I think if you were going to curtail his enjoyment of it you should have stayed at home. Bit of a waste of money for him to go to a festival and spend half of it sitting in the tent.

Lockdownmummy · 28/05/2022 07:17

This won't help but I wouldn't have gone but let him have a last pre baby blow out and enjoyed the bed to myself for a few days 😂

I think if you want to spend time the two of you then don't go somewhere with friends. Let him enjoy the weekend and maybe book a spa break or something for the two of you before the baby comes.

Merryclaire · 28/05/2022 07:17

I don’t think you’re being selfish - I would be irritated, but I suppose he thinks it’s his last hurrah before the baby comes.

Hopefully he is spending the day times with you at least. Last time I went to a festival, I got tired before DH so he would carry on after I went to bed, which I didn’t mind as I was just sleeping anyway!

One thing I would say is to be extra careful with where you eat, hand gel etc - it’s so easy to pick up nasty tummy bugs at festivals.

Sirzy · 28/05/2022 07:19

I think at a festival, with friends you where being a bit unreasonable really. Seems like you may have misjudged how it would work sadly.

cherrymax · 28/05/2022 07:20

Honestly I think he's fine. You're not close to your due date and he's at a festival so I don't see why he can't go and have fun as long as you're ok.

Obviously he needs to have his shit together enough to pack up and get out on Monday morning though!

Ginger1982 · 28/05/2022 07:21

I wouldn't have gone. I don't think it's fair to expect him to be cuddled up with you early doors just because you're pregnant.

Mumdiva99 · 28/05/2022 07:22

As an outsider it's easy for me to say 'be cool' let him get on with it. But I bet youbare a teensy bit worried about where he is, that then turns to annoyance, which makes you a little mad..... Take advantage of being up early. Go find the showers...might be able to get in this morning. Go find a coffee stall or bacon sandwich. Get a book and enjoy the beautiful morning.

When he finally returns.....he should a) be abit sheepish for leaving you. And b) you can decide if the music is worth hanging around for. Or you could leave him to it and head home for a comfy bed.

Which festival are you at? Are their lifestyle things like massage tents? Reiki? Face painting etc Are their workshops going on? Maybe you could keep busy doing different things this morning.

BeastOfBODMAS · 28/05/2022 07:24

I’d let him get on with it, with the caveat that if you’re not enjoying it, get yourself out of there to a hotel with a proper bed and shower! Or whatever would make it a better weekend for you.

I’m on the other side with a 6 month old and it’s going to be quite some years before I attempt another festival, so my advice is to both get the most out of it that you can and don’t worry about not being joined at the hip, you’ll be sick of the sight of him before you know it

MarmaladeLime · 28/05/2022 07:28

I think it wasn't a great plan to start with tbh. It costs a lot of money to go to a festival so it would have made more sense for him to go by himself if you were going to get funny about him joining in the festival.

WTF475878237NC · 28/05/2022 07:36

Is it just the two of you? I'd hate to be left alone all night in a tent at a festival even without being pregnant. So many sexual assaults take place at festivals there's a new charter out this year.

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mummysept22 · 28/05/2022 07:47

Thank you all!! I knew it I just needed to hear it 😂 I had a great nights sleep to be fair so will get over myself and enjoy the rest of the weekend 😃 xx

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Mumdiva99 · 28/05/2022 08:14

Have fun today. I hope the weather is kind to you. Xxx

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mummysept22 · 28/05/2022 09:02

@Mumdiva99 thank you!! It has been so far , it's so lovely to be back in a field with our friends 🥰 been a long time coming! Glad I came x

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