Unplanned pregnancy a year after giving birth

[Cinnamon1991]

Hi everyone...I really just needed someone to talk to, vent to even because I have gotten myself into this situation.

I am currently 5 weeks pregnant, this pregnancy was totally unplanned and has really taken me and DH aback. It is our fault...we didn't use a condom, we always do...and on this one occasion we didn't. We didn't think it would be a big deal because we had a baby girl a year ago, but it took 5 years of trying to conceive her. That is why we never in our wildest dreams thought this one off would get me pregnant, but here we are. I feel so emotionally and physically overwhelmed as my morning sickness has kicked in and I feel god awful. I also have a small child to take care of and I feel so so guilty that I cannot enjoy my time with her because I feel so sick.

I had a c section and my pregnancy with my daughter was difficult, I had awful sickness, diabetes...was induced which failed resulting in an EMCS. The thought of having to do all this again with a small child is really making me feel depressed and alone. I felt like I just got my body back and now have to go through the motions again. I have always wanted a second child, but we were planning maybe after 3 years. This is all happening too soon and I just feel like a wreck.

DH says it was meant to be and to embrace it...but it's easy for him to say, it is my body that will go through all this. I know he is trying to help and what is done is done. But I honestly still feel like crap. The thought of raising 2 babies is stressing me out, and I am not looking forward to the newborn stage which was a struggle to say the least with my daughter.

I guess what I am really asking is, has anyone had an unplanned pregnancy which gave you morning sickness, whilst having a small child to tend to...how did you manage and how are you now managing with 2 small children?

I conceived DC2 on DC1's first birthday. Not planned either. I also had hideous sickness so feel your pain.

Positives - DC1 still napped for a couple of hours each afternoon so I was able to rest when they did. Entertaining a 2/3/4 year old when feeling rough would've been so much harder. If I was being sick, DC1 didn't see / understand and can't remember it now; if they were older I think they'd have found it quite traumatic (I vomited 5-10 times most days). Just have a playpen handy to pop them into if you have to make a dash for the loo.
I still had clothes / baby equipment so the cost of equipping a new baby was minimal. They had each other for company and by the time they were 2&3, could be treated as twins really. They played with the same toys, ate the same food, any days out or trips to the cinema appealed to both, happy to watch the same programmes on TV, same bath / bedtimes etc.

It will be fine. Hard work for a year or so, but when I watch friends with say a 4 & 7 year old I think that's hard work too as they have quite different needs.