Hi all
just wondered if anyone had a similar story to mine to add a bit of reassurance or just info. So I had a positive test just over 4 weeks ago baby is due 31/12/2022. Last Saturday (7weeks) we decided we wanted an early scan. We went and they said there was a sac and fetal pole (baby) we saw the heartbeat and she then said I had an abnormal area next to baby and she could not see the yolk sac,she said I needed to contact my midwife and have a further scan.
After I was loosing my mind scared and worried, I googled but could not find much only about a potential bleed.
by Monday I was out of my mind worrying so called my gp who called me back and I read the report to and proceeded to tell me it does not sound good and 1 in 3 pregnancies end in miscarriage and this baby might not survive. ( I already know this as I have previously lost a baby at 14 weeks)
anyway my local EPaU called and got me in the next day. The triage midwife said it sounds like a bleed and everyone was making me worry over nothing. So we go into the scan and the lady is shaking her head or a while with another midwife. She then tells me that she has the sac, the fetal pole - no heartbeat (but blood is flowing and flickering) and also a mass. They then said they could not confirm all was a bad but it did not look good and they needed me back for another scan. She needed the consultant to look over it.
anyway we are put into a quiet room where the midwife comes in and tells us that consultant looked said it does not look good, baby has either passed or will pass. I said what if baby is alive they tell me that it would not survive because of this mass and start asking me about my smears and cancer history. I am broken…. She then says I need to go back Friday and have a confirmation scan and would she like to go through my miscarriage options. Having already done this before I know I want and will need surgery and she said that’s what they suggest due to my history of bleeding and medical issues. we go home and we are broken hearted.
the Thursday came and I get a phone call from the anaesthetist asking about my medical issues and tells me I am booked in for Monday. I loose my cool and shout you don’t even know my baby is dead yet the scan wasn’t until the Friday. She stutters and apologies.
Friday comes and we go for our scan they ask about bleeding or pain and I said no nothing. We go in for our scan and she goes quiet and I’m dreading it all. But she says yes there’s a heartbeat, fetal pole, yolk sac and it’s grown and has arm buds and legs. She thinks it’s a bleed that’s clearing up but this abnormal area is still there and she thinks it’s a twin which has passed away. We are upset and happy and angry we don’t know how to feel. She tells us she is referring us to fetal medicine to do checks on baby to makes sure it’s all okay, we are just waiting for our next appointment…..I don’t know how to feel what do to…does anyone have any experience in this? Am I getting myself excited about something that’s going to fail or is there any success stories? I just don’t know any help advice about it all would help. I have lost a bit of confidence in the hospital now though