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Suicidal thoughts 20weeks pregnant

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Doesiteverhelp · 22/05/2022 12:36

I don't know if this is the right place or if anyone can help...

I have a 1 year old and I am 20w pregnant.
It's a long story... but in short my marriage has fallen apart a bit since the birth of our first child last year. I am a SAHM and my DH works. We moved abroad recently and I don't know anyone. I feel extremely lonely. I have turned into an angry frustrated person mostly towards my husband. I HATE it. My MIL has come to visit this weekend and my daughter clings onto her and avoids me. I feel like a horrible mother now. I feel hurt and useless. the world is not a great place right now and I regret wanting another baby... wanting for my kid to have a sibling.

I have these strong urges to hurt myself, to run, to end it all. I feel so sad about it.
I had serious mental health problems when I was younger with depression and self harm. I have been through so much medication, inpatient, therapy.... I really thought I was fine but I don't think I am.

It's really hard for me to say it because I am ashamed of it when everyone think I am doing so well.

I don't know what to do. I was feeling so low that I asked my DH to go out with our DC and his family and leave me alone. And now they are coming home, I went out and don't want to go back. I dont want to cause a scene but I can't stop crying. I feel so hopeless

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TheGlitterati · 22/05/2022 12:41

Oh OP, that sounds so hard. Can you call 111 and get referred to the crisis team?

sleepymum50 · 22/05/2022 12:50

Please seek help. I realise in hindsight that I had pre-natal depression.

Ive never really heard it spoken about, but it was definitely that. Pregnancy is awful time with hormones.

FlissMumsnet · 22/05/2022 18:55

Hello OP, we are really sorry to hear you are feeling this way.
We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our Mental Health resources. You can also go to the Samaritans website
or email them on [email protected]. Support from other Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you will be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek real-life help and support as well.
We also like to remind everyone that, although we're awed daily by the astonishing support our members give each other through life's trickier twists and turns, we'd always caution anyone never to give more of themselves to another poster, emotionally or financially, than they can afford to spare.
Some further support links:
NHS: Where to get urgent help for mental health
NHS: Looking after your mental health
MIND: Coping with mental health problems during coronavirus
CALM: The Campaign Against Living Miserably
NHS: Help for suicidal thoughts
Very best wishes from MNHQ.

lemons44 · 28/05/2022 07:55

Hope you managed to get some help OP ❤️

Doesiteverhelp · 28/05/2022 10:58

I did, thank you...
Things are not fixed but I am working on it...

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