Lost my old dad at twenty six weeks, he will never meet my baby

[theotherfossilsister]

Just that really.

On a train with DP and will see my mum soon.

Dad had pancreatic cancer.

I'm missing my next fetal medicine appointment, I have them every three weeks for lupus heart scans.

We were on holiday in Palermo but got a flight here. I know pancreatic cancer is horrible but I had a stupid notion he could hang on to meet his grandson.

I’m so sorry for your loss 💐

I’m so sorry.
the “never will…” was the hardest part of losing my Mom.

she died in similar circumstances, abdominal cancer and had been doing very well, we were on holiday and tried to get back but she declined very rapidly. One thing that helped me was to remember that her end being swift meant her needs for a lack of pain were met, even if I didn’t get to be there.

I am so so sorry to hear this 💐

I lost my dad in Feb when my little boy was just 8 months old, I was lucky for him to meet his grandson but he now will never be able to see him grow up, he ment the world to my dad, is was he wish to see him grow, it's awful to go through it and even to this day I still crumble often, at least my dad is no longer in pain and thats comfort I have

Jist take one day at a time lovely 💝

Sorry for your loss . My dad never got to meet either of our children and he was a fabulous dad so I’m sure would have been an excellent granddad .💐

I’m so sorry for your loss.

My Dad died in 2005, when I was pregnant with my second child. It was an awful time and my heart really goes out to you. (My boy is 16 now and is uncannily like my Dad in several ways, even though they never met. It is a comfort to me)

@theotherfossilsister I am so sorry op ♥️ your dad will always be with you and your baby xx

So sorry OP, sending hugs to you 😘

not quite the same but my grandad died when I was pregnant with my son, I see him in my son sometimes and that’s a lovely reminder to me.

Take care x

I am so sorry for your loss. I too am pregnant and lost my auntie who I was very close to to pancreatic cancer in February. It's an evil evil disease and I'm so sorry it took your dad.

Your dad will live on in your little one and I hope you are able to find a little comfort in that xx

Thank you all. He was a brilliant dad and I loved him very much. Pancreatic cancer is horrible.

I'm sorry to all the others who've lost loved ones. I'd love him to live on in this baby.

That's really sad. Sorry for your loss. Make sure you are taking good care of yourself through it all. x

Thank you. My fil has cancer too but his is a far less aggressive form, prostate. I'd hate to lose both my baby's grandpa's.

I'm so sorry. DH lost his Nan (who more or less brought him up) when I was 8 months pregnant, it hit us hard as she knew we were having a boy and we'd had no idea she wouldn't be here to meet him. Our DD had such a lovely relationship with her as well so whilst we did count our blessings that she had had 4 wonderful years with her great nan it was gut-wrenching to realise our DS would never know her.

Thanks guys. Flying home today as my mum's surrounded by family. Still doesn't feel real. Poor dad, dieing of pancreatic cancer. I hate it.

Baby kicked all through the funeral

So sorry OP, that must be really hard.

Thank you Coalcraft, it's just been a really rough pregnancy and year

I'm so sorry for your loss OP. We lost DF and FIL to cancer within months of each other just before DC1. I now have two DC and always wonder how they would have been with them. It's shit. But I find solace in how wonderful the DC are and look forward to when they are old enough for us to tell them about their wonderful grandfathers, how they've shaped DH & I into the people we are and the positive traits we've inherited and hope to pass on to DC.

That's so hard Foxtrot. Losing both must have been the worst heartbreak.

It will be lovely to tell him about his wonderful grandpa and the stories he told.