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Anxiety affecting baby

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Bubbles021 · 17/05/2022 01:38

Hello,
I'm currently 27+1 with my rainbow baby. This might be a really stupid question, but I'm worried my anxiety could be harming my baby.
I lost my son (first pregnancy) last year at 33 weeks, so this whole pregnancy has been full of anxiety. However, as I'm reaching his first birthday the anxiety has become extreme and I'm having panic attacks and flashbacks to his death. My midwife is aware and I am awaiting a call from perinatal mental health.
I just wondered if anyone else has dealt with anxiety and if their baby was okay?
I know this worry is adding to the anxiety, but it's very hard to stay calm and think rationally at the moment!
Thank you 💖

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rea2022x · 17/05/2022 01:48

HI op, sleepy to learn of your previous loss. I had a loss too then fell pregnant quite quickly after with my DD (8 weeks) and must say I had terrible anxiety all throughout. I wish I said it got better, but it's just part of the journey. However do speak to your midwife and GP and get him in how to handle your anxiety. Your almost there, soon your darling baby will be in your arms and it will be a distant memory xx

rea2022x · 17/05/2022 01:49

rea2022x · 17/05/2022 01:48

HI op, sleepy to learn of your previous loss. I had a loss too then fell pregnant quite quickly after with my DD (8 weeks) and must say I had terrible anxiety all throughout. I wish I said it got better, but it's just part of the journey. However do speak to your midwife and GP and get him in how to handle your anxiety. Your almost there, soon your darling baby will be in your arms and it will be a distant memory xx

Sorry* half asleep feeding DD.

Fizzyfish · 17/05/2022 01:49

I'm going through something similar right now, 28 weeks and I lost my son at 25 weeks last summer..very anxious and wondering how I can get through the next 12 weeks as it feels there is so long left to go. The only thing that has helped me so far op has been to book private scans in between, I've been anxious the whole time too. I think you should be OK as long as you are looking after yourself in other respects, eating, drinking enough etc. It's not a nice feeling though, I know xx

bluejelly · 17/05/2022 03:38

Sorry to hear about your anxiety. I had a very emotionally challenging pregnancy and cried a lot.
I felt terribly guilty that this would damage the baby in some way, until a kind midwife said I really need not worry. And she was right. My daughter was a totally healthy, happy baby/ child (and now a young woman).
Take care OP but really try not to worry Flowers

Overanxiousmummy · 17/05/2022 04:41

I was admitted to ante natal ward twice with anxiety towards the end of my rainbow pregnancy (for 5 nights each time), I was a total mess and also worried about the impact on the baby but he is absolutely fine, he is 9 months old now and I'm told he is doing very well (my anxiety is still pretty bad).
The way I see it is you do what you have to to get through the pregnancy, I had weekly scans from the hospital and daily ctg for the last two weeks and although it was tiring I don't care one bit because I got my healthy baby.
Ask your consultant if you can be referred to women's health psychology at the hospital, they were my saviour and helped me understand why I was reacting in certain ways and that it was totally normal!
You are doing so well, every day is a day closer x

Elspethelf · 17/05/2022 05:07

Your story touched my heart, I lost my baby at one day old last year due to an undiagnosed condition and am currently 5 weeks pregnant. I hope you have amazing support around you. You have all my best wishes x

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Bubbles021 · 17/05/2022 11:25

Thank you so much everyone for your replies 💙
I have an appointment with the midwife today and I'm going to tell her again how bad the anxiety has been, she told me a couple of weeks ago she could refer me for extra support but I think she may have forgotten.
I have also booked a private scan for tomorrow even though I feel so silly because deep down I know she is fine!

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Elspethelf · 17/05/2022 19:19

I’m sure the scan will show a perfect little one x

Axahooxa · 17/05/2022 19:22

Really push for help with your anxiety and also go though your GP. The nhs is in a bad state and you have to really assert your needs… repeatedly and loudly.

Aria2015 · 17/05/2022 19:32

Aw, I'm so sorry for your loss. I suffer from situational anxiety that only affects me when I'm pregnant, triggers by previous pregnancy losses. I was an anxious wreck from positive pregnancy test to birth with both of my successful pregnancies but my anxiety has caused no harm to my children - they were both very chilled and happy babies. Try not to add to your (completely understandable) anxiety by worrying about how it will affect your baby. Do take the any extra support you can get though. I was referred to a brilliant psychologist who got me through my final weeks. I also had a consultant who was very understanding and agreed to induce me a bit early too because I was in such a state. It's not the same for everyone, but for me, my anxiety vanished the moment I had my baby safely in my arms, I hope you enjoy that same peace. Best of luck with your rainbow baby.

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