Baby showers

[LilythePunk]

My son's gf is having a baby shower in London. I live at the other end of the country. She is due a month after the baby shower which will mean two trips with hotel stays and travelling costs, as we will go down when the baby is born. I feel awful if I don't attend, but feel it's more of an event for her friends really.

Never been to a baby shower before and not sure what the etiquette is.

I think that's fine. They couldn't not invite you but I'm sure will understand your reasoning. Send a small gift if you want to but no obligation on that either.

Don't feel like you have to go if you don’t want to/can’t afford it! I had a baby shower with both family and friends recently and would have felt awful if anybody was spending money when they couldn’t afford it to attend or felt like it was a summons! It was organised for me (not quite against my will 😅 but I didn’t ask for/want one) and in a family members house so no costs to attend for most people but a few people did travel a little distance but made a weekend of it which was lovely as hadn’t seen some people for quite sometime due to lockdowns/covid.

It’s entirely up to you if you go or not but if you decide against going then send her a nice message to enjoy her day and that you’re looking forward to seeing her and the baby.
I reallt didn’t want a baby shower but it was arranged and was only my family and close friends. It wasn’t full of games etc, just a nice catch up with good food so you never know what it will be like.