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Early Scan Nerves

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mrsgtobe97 · 13/05/2022 11:28

Hi, currently 5w4d in my first ever pregnancy after struggling to conceive for 2 years with PCOS, we are getting an early scan next Thursday at 6w3d and I am so so so so nervous I feel sick for it. I know I can't control the outcome but we go on holiday the following week and then getting married in July so I'm terrified of getting bad news and it being ripped from us. How do you calm your nerves? 🥲 I can't stop thinking about the worst case scenario

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Regenbogen22 · 13/05/2022 11:38

The nerves will unfortunately never vanish for some - those who have had losses or struggled to conceive to begin with.

You can only do what you can control these next weeks: take a good prenatal vitamin with omega 3 and a good amount of folic acid, get regular exercise even if just walking to get the blood flowing, get enough sleep, treat yourself kindly. Keep busy and distracted! Soon enough the weeks will start flying by!

Cakecakecheese · 13/05/2022 11:47

I had a scan at 7 weeks and the weeks leading up to it were so hard, luckily it was over Christmas which helped, so definitely try and stay busy, having a holiday and a wedding to plan for should help provide distractions. Best of luck!

Bubbles021 · 13/05/2022 12:53

I don't think you can remove those nerves - they show how much you care!
Scan anxiety is a very real thing. I always tell myself I have no reason to believe anything is wrong (can't say it always works 🤦🏼‍♀️), but also I try and picture myself holding my healthy newborn in a few months time and that visualisation does help me.
I lost my first baby last year at 33 weeks, so I completely empathise with the anxiety. I wish I could say it goes away, but I don't think it does, it just changes, and the more positive news and scans you get, the less anxious (hopefully) you'll feel at each scan. Good luck 🥰

Chanel05 · 13/05/2022 13:40

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

In my experience, the very first nerves you get from scans, grow, change and develop into worry about movements, childbirth, your newborn and so forth!

My first pregnancy was a mmc. Saw a heartbeat at a scan and by the next scan, it'd stopped. I was completely shocked and distraught.

I fell pregnant again later that year and each scan had me in buckets of nerves. I actually had a panic attack at both my 7 and 10 week scans with nerves. However, that pregnancy now resulted in my now toddler!

I'm 7+3 in my third pregnancy and had a scan last Sunday, all was well. I'm already having anxiety about my next scan in 2 weeks time. Despite having a healthy pregnancy, the damage to my mental health from my miscarriage has firmly been done and the fear tends to outweigh the knowledge that I've also had a very normal pregnancy.

The short of it is, you probably won't lose the nerves and anxiety at any scan or waiting for the midwife to detect the baby's heartbeat at every appointment after 16 weeks. You just need to remind yourself that in all likelihood, you'll be heavily pregnant this Christmas, with family asking you when it's going to happen and you putting on a smile, whilst getting very fed up of the comments!!

Chanel05 · 13/05/2022 13:40

Sorry about the lack of paragraphs - I don't know how that's happened when I put them in!

mrsgtobe97 · 13/05/2022 14:10

Thank you everyone, it's comforting to know everyone deals with the same feelings, I think my fears get heightened because I know how common it is to have something go wrong so my head assumes I can't possibly have something go well after the struggle of getting pregnant 😬

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Sbena · 13/05/2022 15:13

I only stopped being quite so anxious after baby reached 6MO and the SIDS risk decreased. Of course the nerves are still there!

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