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Potential miscarriage, has all hope gone?

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KimberleyS91 · 11/05/2022 09:00

My first post here and looking for people who have been through similar...

I had a positive test on 26th March with a FRER. I'm not sure if the test picked up SUPER early or not, it doesn't help that my cycles had been sort of irregular beforehand (I had two periods in February, for example).

Anyway last Friday we went for a scan. They just did an abdominal one (no internal scans or blood tests) but found that the fetal pole was measuring 5mm and is of uncertain viability. She told us it's unlikely to be viable going by my dates. I was told to come back in 10 days for another scan (absolute torture..!).

My mental health was struggling, so I booked a private scan yesterday to have an internal scan done. She found a fetal pole estimated to be 6w5d as well as a large sac and no heartbeat. She believes it is likely the baby has stopped growing around 6 weeks.

How do I get through this next week? I am walking around in a haze. I have a 4yr old to care for too, and I just don't want to do anything. The guilt of that alone is eating me up. I still have pregnancy symptoms which is making it even harder. I feel like this wait is just prolonging the heartbreak before they tell us the inevitable.

Has anyone gone through this? Is there any hope at all? How do I survive this next week?

I've attached copies of what the sonographer found yesterday in case it helps at all. Thank you x

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BabyOnBoard90 · 11/05/2022 19:15

@KimberleyS91 My advice is to keep busy and try doing things you enjoy to pass the time. Definitely avoid going down the Google rabbit hole, you won't find the answers you're looking for

fuckwhatshouldido · 11/05/2022 19:21

I’m really sorry OP but it doesn’t sound like it’ll end up being a positive outcome for you. I’d use the time before the next appointment to prepare yourself and get your head around it. I don’t know if you know the process but you’ll probably be offered 3 choices: waiting it out to have a natural miscarriage, medical management (the tablets that you should be able to take at home to make the pregnancy pass) and surgical management (an MVA/D&C depending on what your trust offers). I’ve had 2x surgical, 1x medical and 1x natural and they were all fine as these things go, it’s just personal choice and what fits in best with your circumstances. I’m really sorry for what you’re going through, it’s a shit situation and such a shock if you’re not expecting it 💐

LovesFood1987 · 11/05/2022 19:45

I'm so sorry you're going through this 😞 having had 4 miscarriages I'm very sorry to say I think this is unlikely to have a positive outcome. It is so so hard, especially when you have another child to care for.

Focus on your 4 year old as much as you can, congratulate yourself on surviving each day xx

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