Abortion in 15 weeks

[Mia2029]

Hi, just hope someone could share their experience. I have unplanned pregnancy and I found it out only when I was already 10 weeks pregnant. I have two children and I had very hard experience in last pregnancy (2 surgeries because of hernia), after I got hernia again and now I'm so scared I could not survive. Also I split up with my partner it was my decision, he knows about pregnancy and really wants this baby). But I don't know what to do with this fear and I booked an abortion but its available only in 15 weeks pregnant (medical abortion) or 16 weeks - surgical option. I don't want to do this, but my last experience was awful, me and my baby nearly survived.

How about posting this on ‘pregnancy choices’ instead?

Hi OP, I’m so sorry you’re in such a hard situation. Have you spoken to your GP and midwife? I would definitely speak to them first before making a decision. This will help you get an idea of what to expect in pregnancy which could help weigh things up. It sounds like you want the baby but are worried (understandably) about the medical issues involved. There may be some kind of hernia support belt suitable for pregnancy? (depending on the type of hernia it is). Or other support available specific to your medical needs. See what the medical advice is first, as they may well have experience of other mums in the same position as you.

Sorry I missed the but you said about splitting up with your partner - do you have any support from family or friends? Sorry you’re in such a tough situation 💐

Sorry, I'm new on mumsnet, didn't find pregnancy choices topic

I got a support from family and baby's father wants to support us too. Main concern is about my health condition. I already am in waiting list for surgery but during pregnancy they are doing only emergency ones. And hernia becomes only bigger. Doctors said they can't help with it, they can do only emergency surgery if needed but this is dangerous for both of us. And I already had 2 surgeries in previous pregnancy, during second one had a preterm c-section as well due to my health condition. But before last pregnancy I never had hernia so I even didn't know I could have this problem :(

OK so they mean the hernia will get bigger as your bump gets bigger, is that right?

Is the lack of non-emergency hernia surgery due to you being pregnant? I.e. they don’t want to send you in for surgery whilst pregnant, as it is a risky procedure, unless in an emergency? Or is because they only have the capacity to offer emergency surgeries at the moment (due to backlog or lack of staff etc)?

That’s great you have support from your family and the baby’s father though

Yes. I'm in waiting list for 9 mths already but due to risk they will not do a surgery while pregnant. And risk for emergency treatment is high. Hernia is growing fast because of pregnancy and that scares me even I really wanted third child. Never had an abortion and 15 weeks is so much :/

I think we might all have to agree that your survival is the most important part. Your existing children need you.

If your are in the UK can you complain to PALS ( or someone else) and get the abortion brought forward. It is a bloody hard decision to have to make. But when necessary it should be as swift and efficient as possible.

I'm booked for medical abortion after two days. Before that they deferred because BPAS refused to do this (because of my health condition) and referred to nhs hospital and there was a long waiting time. And now I don't know how to do this even it could be a right decision. I wish I could turn back time and did a sterilisation during c-section

Sounds like you need a wonderful holistic doctor who can do the hernia, abortion and sterilisation at the same time.

Sending you great big hugs and hoping you have someone in real life that you can blab your eyes out onto.

Good luck

Thank you for support I really appreciate it :)

What is an holistic doctor ? Is this in the uk ?

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