Unexpected pregnancy

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Merryclaire · 08/05/2022 08:19

Sorry you have this dilemma. Only you can decide what the right way forward is for you and your family, though. There is no simple right or wrong answer.
Perhaps give the news a few days to settle in, and talk it over with your husband as much as possible. See whether you think you could make it work, and what the consequences might be either way.
Once it’s sunk in hopefully you’ll have a clearer picture of what to do.
Just remember, it’s your life, and your decision.

Regenbogen22 · 08/05/2022 08:42

It is absolutely your decision OP, yours and your husband's.

From your post I "hear" that multiple reasons contribute to the another child/pregnancy being less than desirable right now. You sound more negative than positive, if that helps.

And I'm truly sorry if this is totally out of place, but now that you've had 2 unplanned pregnancies maybe you should also think about different forms of contraception for the future, to save you having to make these decisions again? 🙂

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QueenM221 · 08/05/2022 13:00

Merryclaire · 08/05/2022 08:19

Sorry you have this dilemma. Only you can decide what the right way forward is for you and your family, though. There is no simple right or wrong answer.
Perhaps give the news a few days to settle in, and talk it over with your husband as much as possible. See whether you think you could make it work, and what the consequences might be either way.
Once it’s sunk in hopefully you’ll have a clearer picture of what to do.
Just remember, it’s your life, and your decision.

Hiya,

Thanks for the advice, I will give it some time to think it over 🙂

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QueenM221 · 08/05/2022 13:03

Regenbogen22 · 08/05/2022 08:42

It is absolutely your decision OP, yours and your husband's.

From your post I "hear" that multiple reasons contribute to the another child/pregnancy being less than desirable right now. You sound more negative than positive, if that helps.

And I'm truly sorry if this is totally out of place, but now that you've had 2 unplanned pregnancies maybe you should also think about different forms of contraception for the future, to save you having to make these decisions again? 🙂

Hey,

Actually the first unplanned pregnancy I was waiting for doctors appointment to get contraception but it was weeks away. That's why. But I will be doing something asap about this.

I didn't mean to sound negative it's just I want to focus on my children right now.

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MissMaple82 · 08/05/2022 13:16

You sound like you don't want to be pregnant. I speak as someone who has been through it, its the guilt that makes you doubt. Once it's done, you do lose the guilt, it's the limbo period that's horrible. It sounds like you know what you want, and it sounds like you've already got your hands full. You get counselling before having it so maybe ask for that before you decide. And maybe think about some better contraception for the future.

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QueenM221 · 08/05/2022 13:25

MissMaple82 · 08/05/2022 13:16

You sound like you don't want to be pregnant. I speak as someone who has been through it, its the guilt that makes you doubt. Once it's done, you do lose the guilt, it's the limbo period that's horrible. It sounds like you know what you want, and it sounds like you've already got your hands full. You get counselling before having it so maybe ask for that before you decide. And maybe think about some better contraception for the future.

Hey,

Thanks for the advice, I do feel guilty I do hope this fades over time 😔 I will try counselling to help overcome this feeling.

If you don't mind me how did u overcome the guilt if you went ahead with not keeping it?

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Rj30 · 30/05/2022 14:18

QueenM221 · 07/05/2022 22:05

Hi,

So basically I have 3 children my eldest is going to be 6 and my other 2 are aged 3,2. My last pregnancy was unexpected but the baby. They are so close in age.

The younger 2 have separation anxiety when away from me.

I want to focus of my children and raise them in a right way, focus on their education. I am not in the right mindset for another children and I am now pregnant unexpectedly again 😔

I have mixed emotions because I don't know what to do weather to keep the baby or not 😐.

It's not that I can't look after another one it's just I have a lot of responsibility to the other 3 I have now. Plus financial situations and at the best of times with everything going up and people getting effected by this.

Me and my husband live alone so we depend on each other. I need some advice some support please on what to do 😔

Shall I keep the baby or not ?

Please advise me.

Thank you 🙏

Hi, I have just found out the exact same and have 3 children also, have you made a decision of what you're going to do? my husband seems quite happy with the results but I don't know how to feel and how I would cope with 4, hoping it'll get better over time if we decided to go ahead with the pregnancy.