So I'm pregnant there will be a 2 3/4 age gap anyone else got this gap

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Just interested to know how your dc1 took it were the jelous, happy, playing up or being good? and what things did you do to stop them feeling left out.
Thanks

I have a similar age gap between my two. Dd was fine to begin with (probably because she had just started at playgroup when ds was born and therefore had her own world outside of home) but when he got to about 4 months old I think she did start to get a bit jealous. It wasn't anything horrible but just competing for attention and trying to come into our bed quite often.

Bascially we just gave her some undivided attention when ds was asleep (hard when you are so tired!)

Congratualtion btw!

Good morning,

My dd1 was 2.5 when ds was born and we had no problems at all. The best advice someone gave me was when in hospital try not to be holding baby when first born comes in and then if poss let first born hold baby so they feel special.
We also brought a small gift for first born off baby ( that went down a treat) and just remember to try and include first born in small tasks with baby. My dd loved helping bathing him and trying to read to him.

We have the exacnt same age gap. baby brought big brother a present (Big Brother t-shirt and a I'm a big brother book) when she was born. I had several books about having a new baby and ds loved getting these read to him before baby came along.
I also bought a doppler and let him listen to baby's heart beat, he came along to all my antenatal appointments and got involved there, so he was very prepared for the new baby.
I got him to "help" with the new baby-bringing nappies, wipes, helping with baby's bath etc.
It's only now that they are older (4yr 5mo and nearly 20mo) that I find they are competing for attention, and one on one is the only way to go (easy to say, hard in practice!)

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and congrats and good luck

Exactley the same gap I had, it's all a bit of a blur now but it was perfect for us. Now they are 3 and 6 and get on really well when they are not fighting

Same gap here. We involved DD as much as possible with the pregnancy - she came to most of the ante-natal appointments with her Doctors bag!!
She also helped us buy the few bits we needed, chose her own buggy board and bought the baby a teddy. He did get her a present too but that didn't seem to have much of an impact though others say different.
"There's a House Inside my Mummy" was a great book that we read a lot, as was "Hello Baby" if you are planning a home birth.
We also emphasized how boring new babies were and I pointed out every yelling baby we came across just to get her used to the idea that we might get a screamer, luckily we didn't.
Teaching her to sit beside me and turn pages of a book before the baby was born was great, as was emphasizing to her that once I had the baby sorted out for feeding then we would have lots of time for reading/chatting etc. Up until I stopped bf at 14mths DD would go and get a book every time I got my boobs out

They are now nearly 5 and 2 and have recently started playing 'properly' together, ie not just DS doing as he is told by DD. Dh and I can't believe our luck as its SO heartwarming to hear them together

Good luck with it all and enjoy it.

This is exactly the age gap between me and my brother. I loved helping to look after him when he was a baby (not sure how much "help" I actually was!) and we got on very well as children and played together a lot - just the usual brother/sister arguments when he wanted to play "death to all flower fairies" or something similar.

Congratulations and good luck!