Is anyone really sexually rampant, or is that something that's been made up to give men false hope?

[isaidno]

My 3rd pregnancy and once again I'd rather not bother with all that sex stuff.

Yes this time and yes with ds 5 yrs ago. Sometimes I do just want to sleep but most of the time like normal or even more randy.

I really really want it but DP is really uncomfortable with the whole idea of doing it while I'm pregnant. I don't feel rejected as such because he's so lovely in other ways, but I do feel a little undesirable and beached whale-ish and I'm starting to worry he'll just see me as a mum afterwards and not want to do it ever again

I understand it's difficult for him and he does explain why, plus I know loads of other men won't go near their partner when she's pregnant because they find it weird, but we used to be like rabbits until I got pregnant- sometimes 6 times a day (we had only been together about 5 months-ish when i got pregnant so we were still at that phase). Even the odd time now would do me but he doesn't even entertain saucy txts or anything because he knows where it's going to lead and if it happens then he feels weird for ages longer about it and I can tell he doesn't really want it anyway.

What's the answer? Will he be straight back into it when we've had the baby? He said he will.

Mumblesmummy - I got pg with ds1 just a few months after meeting dp and he felt weird about sex when I was pg. We found, er, other ways of doing things that he didnt feel so weird about. Although still werent as active as pre pg. And it didnt take us long to get back into things afterwards.

With ds2 I wanted it but he still felt abit weird. Then one time we had sex and my O sent me into spasms of pain, really unbearable at one point, that lasted all through the night Although I was more than happy to try again a couple weeks later I think he hated the fact that he had caused me that much pain (or felt it was his fault) and didnt want to risk doing it again. I did persuade him to 'fool around' with me a few more times though

Madamez, good for you. I felt really unattractive during my 3 pregnancies - fat rather than blooming IYSWIM. Didn't help to know that my husband was one of those who did NOT find pregnant ladies at all sexy.

I love reading your posts BTW - refreshingly honest straight to the point

havent read all thread but i felt extremely sexy when i was pregnant had boobs for a change lol and an exscuse to have a belly lol couldnt bear to be near dp at all for first 3 mths

but after that stage passed couldnt stop think thats why my labour started when it did

had spicy chicken rounded off with spicy fun in bedroom

ut now different story lol i couldnt care less

Totally rampant!

This has lifted my mood a bit - I posted under 'relationships' yesterday regarding lack of sex during pregnancy. I'm glad that it does seem to differ for each person during each pregnancy.

I'm looking forward to getting things going again in the dim and distant future!

We have had a complete turn around. I used to be the horny one at any time. Now I have lost interest. DH is up for it all the time now. I think I just feel too tired to be bothered any would rather have the extra sleep (or MN!!LOL )

ooh, went through v. randy phase with ds and dd. When 4-6 months preg. Mostly just chatted about it though. Dh v. understanding!

Leonie - so, autistic people not v. sexual then. Only ever dealt with kids so wouldn't know. (part time work long time ago) My vivid memory is of S(7) taking trousers off and holding my legs outside in freezing cold with huge erection. very strange and bit scary for me.
I think pregnancy means your body switches its'I NEED TO MAKE A BABY' buttons off.

Tori. Know what you mean. We are the same! Saying that, need to catch up on the zzz's X

He has not been allowed near me since 15 weeks, just gone right off it and we both had quite a high sex drive.. he pointed out last night that his semen does contain something that can bring on labour (I am 39 weeks)- I just thought it was all the jiging around that brought on labour!- he didn't seem bothered when I asked whether he would mind just giving me the tissue once he had finished!!!!!

I been same im 8weeks with my 1st pregnancy and not been in the mood in slightest n just can't be bothered.Xmas eve was the last time until sat just gone-my mate is bt 20weeks pregnant and she is always wanting it and even sometimes twice a day

rampant x thought everybody was..

Mumblesmummy, dh was the same while I was pg. Didn't even let me kiss him in case I got any ideas!! Don't want to worry you but it was 7 months after dd was born til we 'did it'. I wanted to but he didn't

Um...not in this house! I do feel attractive...when I'm awake enough to register how I feel! But I rarely feel sexy enough to want to act on it. It's tough for my partner, I know he's missing it. Plus, orgasms are bloody uncomfortable! Nobody tells you! Extra Braxton Hicks and feeling oddly tight for a couple of hours? No thanks!

Um, sorry. TMI. Too late?

was big on with first pg, but big no no with my 2nd, had every possible discomfort during 2nd one. every pg is different.

Rampant throughout both!

Good in 1st preg but warning as when 6months gone got a bit too frisky and ended up at hospital with bleeding - everything turned out fine - was a long journey to hospital in ambulance especially when driver askin what been doin that nite

Daren't try with 2nd preg!

First time round I wanted to a bit but DH wouldn't go near me. He had this whole "Elvis" thing going on (he didn't touch Priscilla once she was pregnant...or after that!). Had sex once when he came home tipsy after night out. Of course I was happy to oblige but he was upset the next day.
This time round I was stupidly rampant in 2nd trimester and we're both more blase about the pregnancy this time round. DH couldn't get enough of the heaving bust!! However, with 6 weeks to go now, I'm not so keen. All the parts of me that want to be touched are either ugly or doing something "mumsy" now!!! We did the other night but to be honest, my body said yes but it was just a bit uncomfortable.
Think I'll wait until after the birth now...

x

I was horny as anything when I was pregnant with my first child. I had loads of really erotic dreams throughout (something I'd never had before). second time around though I would have quite happily done without it.