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Movements but horrible Dr

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Fairy45 · 02/05/2022 20:20

Hey all, I've had a pretty crap week really been in hospital a lot with illness more than baby issues. Had clinic on Friday to do growth scan, baby on small side and slow movements so then got put on monitor and told to phone every day that I have slow movements.
Sat night had a big wobble as thought waters had gone, thankfully just a roaring UTI/thrush from previous course of abx which finished today.
So went in and the Dr was so patronising. I heard her outside the door before she came to discharge me saying to the midwife and student midwife that she's met me earlier in the week and I'm "one of those going to be in every week" and it made me feel like an absolute waste of time.
So movements were all fine yesterday but other than hiccups today I've really not noticed any. I want to phone in but given the Dr comments and how patronising she was to my face too I just don't want to.
Example, due to high infection levels my HR was dangerously high and when I got into hospital (earlier in the week I mean) I was on an ecg within 10 minutes of arrival. It wasn't even something I'd mentioned, I collapsed at work and a colleague took me to A n E and they were amazing. But when I mentioned to this Dr that I still felt like I was having palpitations in spite of all the abx ive had to bring infections under control, she dismissed it as anxiety.
WWYD?

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Dinosaursdontgrowontrees · 02/05/2022 20:26

Doctor was completely out of order. If you have reduced movements please get checked. How many weeks are you?

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Fairy45 · 02/05/2022 20:27

34 today.

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Sometimeswinning · 02/05/2022 20:27

Keep going in. Not a care about them because once your baby is here you won't see them again! If you feel happy seeing them and being reassured go for it! My first pregnancy I was treated quite badly. By my 3rd I'd have loved to have come across those people again!

NursieBernard · 02/05/2022 20:44

You and your baby are more important than what any doctor or anybody else thinks about you. If you are having reduced movements please get it checked out.

LightningAndRainbows · 02/05/2022 20:48

Go back in don't risk it

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Fairy45 · 02/05/2022 21:15

Thanks I know you're all right it's just made it harder to make the phone call. The midwives have all been incredible its just been this 1 Dr who I happen to have seen twice in a week.
Baby's moving a little bit now so might just go to bed and give them a call in the morning. The other thing is that the illnesses have absolutely drained me. Can't even walk to the corner shop without running out of breath.

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Sometimeswinning · 02/05/2022 21:27

I was always told a cold drink and to lay on your left side, if no movement then to call someone. I always found a hot drink on my tummy would also get baby rolling!

CornishTiger · 02/05/2022 21:36

If baby has been moving less than Normal you go back in.

no hot or cold drinks to wake baby up, or laying on side. It’s dangerous outdated advice.

please don’t wait til morning.

Aprildaisyx · 02/05/2022 21:55

I would honestly put all your feelings about what the doctor said away and just focus on yourself and your baby. If a random doctor in a hospital wants to judge you for going in “once a week” nothing you can do will change that unfortunately. Your health and your baby’s health is worth 1000000Xs more than a doctors opinion!
I’m not making excuses at all but the NHS are so pushed doctors are tired and are occasionally going to say things they shouldn’t / don’t mean, please don’t take it personally and risk anything because of it.
Hope everything is okay anyway xx

RoseslnTheHospital · 02/05/2022 22:10

Don't let the doctor put you off. It's better to be an annoyance to doctors like that one and get checked out than to leave it. I think I'd also report the overheard comment to PALS if you can find the time. Or make a written note of the date, time, location, what was said etc so you could report it later on if you prefer.

Sometimeswinning · 02/05/2022 22:22

CornishTiger · 02/05/2022 21:36

If baby has been moving less than Normal you go back in.

no hot or cold drinks to wake baby up, or laying on side. It’s dangerous outdated advice.

please don’t wait til morning.

It's not been that long since I was told that. Why is it dangerous? Surely best case baby moves. Worst case you call the doctor. I say this as it was the best advice for me.

RoseslnTheHospital · 02/05/2022 22:24

Because it might delay women from seeking help, and sometimes a few hours delay is too long.

SweetPeaGirl · 02/05/2022 22:30

Honestly fuck that doctor. Call/go in any time you have symptoms of concern, and DEFINITELY for reduced movements. Your baby is more important than their opinion.

But also, maybe drop an email to your hospital's PALS to make a complaint. That doctor was totally out of order and you deserve better.

Tothepoint99 · 02/05/2022 22:32

www.nhs.uk/pregnancy/keeping-well/your-babys-movements/

Hope this helps x

TheSillyMastiff · 02/05/2022 22:32

As bluntly as I can say it, fuck the Dr, fuck her opinion, it's not her body or her baby, she's paid to be there, she can leave if she doesn't want to be paid to be there and treat patients. Makes no difference.to you and your baby.

Please don't worry about a jumped up prick in a white coat, you can do this. If you are worried please call. Don't worry about others 💐

In contrast I had a anterior placenta, and I could hardly ever feel baby moving. I was on monitoring constantly the Dr on that ward said to me "come in whenever, rather have you hooked up for 40minites, check all is fine and send you home with peace of mind" .

Fizzyfish · 02/05/2022 22:38

As the pp says, fuck the doctor, she's getting paid enough to be there. Not her body, not her baby, women get handed leaflets at the ante natal clinic saying it doesn't matter how many times you come in, we would rather see you, don't leave it until the next day etc. So call them and go back in as much as you need to, don't be afraid to. You should also put a complaint in about that doctor, she was out of order, the twat

rainbowzebra05 · 02/05/2022 22:50

My son would have died had I not kept pushing about reduced movements when they made it clear they didn't believe me.

Honestly, it's awful but chances are you won't see this doctor again once baby's here. Take them out of the equation and act on your instincts/the evidence. Only you know how much you're really feeling movement. It's scary enough without drs not believing you.

CoalCraft · 03/05/2022 06:46

They still have the "drink a fold drink and lie on your side for two hours" advice up on the wall in my antenatal clinic. Unless they've taken it down since I was there two weeks ago, it's still current advice.

Regardless, OP I'm sorry that Dr was so rude and unprofessional, that would have made me feel less confident ringing too. Please don't let her put you off though - you are protecting your baby.

CoalCraft · 03/05/2022 06:47

*cold not fold

Cakecakecheese · 03/05/2022 08:57

Lodge a complaint with PALS as that sort of attitude could prevent people seeking help. Surely it's better to seek help and it turn out to be nothing than to keep it to yourself and potentially miss something serious?

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Fairy45 · 03/05/2022 10:00

Thank you so much everyone. I know I'd be giving the same advice to others too but it's different when it's yourself.
I'm going in at 10.30 though there have been movements this morning. The midwife I spoke to reiterated that they want to see me any time at all too. Honestly the midwives have been amazing.

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numberthirtytwowindsorgardens · 03/05/2022 10:20

OP, I was one of those people who was in every week (monitoring every couple of days). I felt like an absolute fraud, and the traces were always fine - but every single doctor and midwife said to me 'there is no such thing as wasting our time, your baby is the only important thing'. I'm sure they wished I hadn't needed to be in so often! - but they never made me feel it, and my baby was born safely. The hell with that doctor. You look after your baby

theotherfossilsister · 03/05/2022 10:30

I'm so happy you're going in. You're doing the right thing.

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Fairy45 · 03/05/2022 11:55

All was fine. She was sleepy for the first 20 mins so didn't pass the ctg for a while but they are happy with it now. And she's definitely woken up now 🙈 won't stop wriggling. Didn't see the Dr in question but they did mention about my HR and spo2 being off what would be ideal. So they want to see me again Friday to check and if not OK will do another round of bloods.

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Fairy45 · 05/05/2022 22:26

Further update. Baby still been quiet so went back in this evening and hr was 100 for the first 4 minutes. It all got very hectic very quickly. Midwife ran to get Dr who wheeled in a scan machine etc baby then had some accelerations to around 120 but kept dropping back to just under 110 as baseline. Took over an hour for them to be "happy" with the ctg but all the while there were talks of me not going home and delivering the baby 😳 I've got to go back in in the morning for another round of monitoring but under strict instructions to phone back if I don't feel happy. They suggested me staying in overnight but said I could go home as long as I came back in after the school run.

I just feel off. Like I feel like she's not OK. They never actually scanned me in the end and I feel like what if somethings wrong with placenta or something. I'm now 34 + 3 and worried about what's going to happen tomorrow if all is not OK.

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