anxious and guilty

[nordiclondonmum]

Hi everyone,

first entry and guess I am just looking for some support. Recently found out I am pregnant and trying to navigate all the emotions arising with it. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half, and also went through an abortion last year. I knew that if it happened again it would be the right thing to keep it. And on one hand I am happy about it, and excited, on the other I can't help but feel nervous and afraid. I am worried about how my career will be impacted (started a new job only a year ago), I was excited to grow in my role and I know that it will be impacted. I am worried about how my life will change and how I won't be able to live the life I have been. I am worried about our relationship and the fact that we've never lived together.

But then by feeling these emotions I also feel guilty, I am super grateful and know that be pregnant is a blessing in so many ways. And I feel like i should be more excited. That I shouldn't have these feelings and know how to deal with them?

anyone else experienced anything similar?

Hi. Didn't want to read and run but you are not alone in those feelings.
Although I have 2 almost teenage kids already and tried for this pregnancy over 3 years,now that the test is positive I am so worried and anxious to the point that I regret getting pregnant .
I worry about every single aspect like my career,buying bigger house on Maternity, health of the baby , loss of freedom etc.
I guess those feeling are normal feelings as it's a life changing event.
Hopefully it will feel better soon. Wishing you all the best xxx

Hey :)

I think many of us feel nervous and afraid! I am also very anxious, but I've said that I'll just try and get through the first trimester and then start panicking about our finances and making sure the flat is baby suitable (at the moment, it's a disaster). It's natural to think about stuff you will no longer be able to do - for instance, I even feel sad about stuff like not being able to travel abroad (since I barely got to during the last 2 COVID years), even though in the scheme of things it's not a big deal.

By the time you go on maternity leave, you'll actually have been in the job over 18 months, which is absolutely fine. I'd worry if I got pregnant just before taking on a new job, or during the probation period. But you're in a better situation job-wise than many others will be.

Good luck!