To book reassurance scan or not?

[8251peacock]

Going round in circles and can’t make a decision!

I’m 40, have one DS who is 13. Currently pregnant (or am I?), 8w4d by my calculations. Boobs sore and huge, tired like I’ve never been before. BUT. I haven’t been sick, or even felt sick, at all. Sick as a dog from 6w to 16w with DS. Now I know every pregnancy is different, and not everyone is sick, should count myself lucky etc etc, but I’m tying myself up in knots thinking it’s a MMC. So book a reassurance scan? But then I feel like, where does it end? Assuming I had one and all was ok, will I then just convince myself something has gone wrong afterwards and want another? And another?! It feels like maybe it’s a bit pointless, and I should wait for the 12 week one and what will be will be? (Not even had booking in call yet so idk exactly when that would be) Feeling so indecisive it’s driving me mad.

WWYD?

Chances of a miscarriage if a heartbeat is seen at 8 weeks goes down to 3%, so I would have one for that reason.

I'm on my second pregnancy and it's a completely different experience to my first, hardly any symptoms. Personally I would go for the reassurance scan as finding a heartbeat at this stage reduces your chance of miscarriage to 5% which surely means you'll be greatly reassured? I get what you're saying about when does it end but to be honest I think you'll find it reassuring enough.

Reassurance scan for sure.

Your at a good stage to get a scan.
Do it.
It helped me massively and I wasn't tempted for another and another.

I think after 8 weeks is a good time . I would be cautious before this as there are so many threads with posters worrying because they've had inconclusive scans around 6 weeks and they've Been the opposite of reassuring

I think you should have a scan if you're anxious. Pp was right, risk of miscarriage reduces significantly after seeing a heartbeat at 8 weeks.

I’ve just booked one for Tuesday evening 😮

Thanks very much for the advice 💐

Let us know how you get on!

Just an update… they measured at 7w2d which can’t be right and couldn’t detect a heartbeat so they have referred me as a MMC to the hospital.
Can’t say I’m surprised, I knew the lack of sickness was not right. Not looking forward to whatever the next step will be but got to be done I suppose, if nature isn’t going to take its course.
Feel quite crampy after the internal scan.

Sympathies, @8251peacock

@8251peacock so sorry to read your update. I've had 3 mmc, the first one was discovered at my dating scan and so I've always made sure I had early scans for subsequent pregnancies. It doesn't take away the heartache, but in my experience it's been better to find out sooner, rather than later. Make sure you take some time to look after yourself. If you work, take some time off.

I'm so sorry. I had an MMC and found out at a private scan place and that was so awful as it's supposed to be a happy place. Lots of love.

Sorry to hear this. I had an early reassurance scan at 8 weeks, and was measuring too small/no heartbeat. I’m very glad I did it has if I hadn’t I would have at least got to 11 weeks (this is the point I had medical management) without knowing anything was wrong. I would’ve been starting to plan telling family/friends which would have made it so much harder

Thanks all, yes it’s better to know, definitely. Bit of a sleepless night of cramps, and still very crampy all day today but nothing has started yet. Hoping to avoid medical management but I’m assuming that’s probably unlikely. Feels weird to know it’s still in there. Work wasn’t easy but I’m better off going in than sitting about, that’s not for me.
Can’t fault the scan place at all, she was lovely and seemed more upset than we were! The pregnancy wasn’t planned and although we’d come round to the idea, idk if we’ll try again, maybe it just isn’t meant to be.