Too posh to push c section comments

[Orangessunshine]

I had an emergency c section last month and have had a couple of too posh to push comments implying c section is the easier option.

The c section was an emergency to ensure my child and I both survived which i know I don’t need to explain to anyone however the comments still annoy me.
does anyone have any facts or stats I can use to show exactly how rude and wrong these comments are.

thanks

They are obviously saying it as a joke so I would take it in the intended manner and laugh along.

I had 2 C sections and received these sort of comments but I knew there was no seriousness or malice in the comments

Too posh to push, too young to die.

It’s usually people with a certain level of intelligence that use this line. Smile sweetly and be glad that you are not as dim.

"No, just too posh to, you know, DIE IN CHILDBIRTH" should shut them up.

Idiots.

I had an 'elective' c section. Which annoys me in itself as the placenta was blocking the birth canal so no choice. Anyway someone said it to me and soon shut up when I told them why.

As mentioned above, elective just means that it's planned in advance. It doesn't mean it's your preferred choice or that it's unnecessary. I had elective surgery when I had my tonsils taken out.

Ignore and walk away.

Say it was to save both your lives and it's major surgery. You literally had your guts cut open.

thank you all so much for the replies!
This is exactly what mumnet is great for the voice of reason and plain sensible.
Thank you

I had a similar experience today where I felt judged by a friend for having a c section. God I wish people would just be kinder.

FFS like a major surgery is an easy option 🙄 Tell them you're too posh for their idiotic comments!

Yes I know, but those statistics are misrepresented, because of the x% of mothers "too posh to push" figures trotted out by the NHS to the media every few years. How hard would it be to have 3 boxes on the rubber stamp, with a middle one to tick for those done for medical reasons? The statistics then wouldn't be so newsworthy.

This

You could also say: 'imagine your appendix burst, would you or would you not prefer to have emergency surgery?'

If they say they would want surgery, ask them why. If they say because they'd be at risk of dying you can say, same, the doctors didn't want me or the baby to die in childbirth. You could also reply, 'so you are too posh to perish?'

Ignore them. You really can't argue with stupid.

I am currently incubating a giant, transverse baby in my poor battered stomach. I have no choice other than a scheduled section and I'm still getting the odd non-medical unhelpful person asking me if I definitely have to have the section, why don't I just have a little go on my own first and see what happens, don't I realise its major surgery, what a shame I won't get to experience real birth blah blah blah.

Honestly doesn't even phase me. I just laugh at them and tell them I've asked for a little tummy tuck at the same time.

My mum n sister keep saying... They do sections so often these days and seem to not want mums to have to struggle... I have to keep reminding them that I has an emergency section to ensure my baby and I were safe n well n that without it I coukdnt have birthed my baby without trauma or damage to her!!
It's very annoying isn't it?

I had two sections for a variety of reasons. I can't compare it to a vaginal birth as I've never had one. But I certainly don't think it was any harder or easier, though of course some people have easier births than others no matter which way the baby comes out.
My husband's ex, when she learned I'd had a section, said 'oh so not a real birth then'. I had a healthy baby. I avoided any complications. I was pregnant and then I wasn't, because I had GIVEN BIRTH.
People say these stupid phrases because they think it's amusing. Greet such comments with a flat stare and hopefully they will feel some shame.

Are you sure theyre not trying to be funny?