Hi everyone, just looking for some advice please!
It is my friends hen do in 2 weeks time in Malta for two nights. It will be a boozy affair with about 14 ladies who are all big drinkers.
We haven’t told anyone in the group of hens that we are expecting yet & plan to wait until 12 weeks as usual so if I go I would have to use the old ‘I’m on tablets’ excuse as obviously, I won’t be able to drink. The girls would 2000% guess I was pregnant from this but they would be sensitive enough not to say anything and respect we obviously weren’t at a ~safe~ time to announce it yet and a few girls are mommas themselves.
The only problem is I am suffering with nausea and fatigue so I’m not sure how much social battery I’ve got to go on the hen do and still contribute much in terms of fun. I defo don’t want to be a Debbie Downer and I also don’t want to go and feel awful all the time, but I also don’t want to just be a hermit and not do anything while pregnant! Would you go? If you were the bride would you rather I didn’t come? Would it seem miserable of me to go and take a rest in the room and leave early on evenings as and when needed?
The bride is lovely and I am considering telling her if I do go (and telling the others on tablets) so she is aware & doesn’t think I’m being miserable but I can’t work out if I would be just killing the vibe if I was to go… and she is certainly too lovely to tell me to do anything other than what I would like to do.
Appreciate any advice or insight you can give please! Xxx