Due date getting closer.. starting to get nervous

[Happierthanever91]

My due date is in 11 weeks and all of a sudden I am terrified. This is my second child and I am absolutely thrilled be in this position but I cannot stop worrying.

I don't know if it's because I know what's coming this time?

With my first, she was back to back which was absolutely excruciating in labour. Then I had to have an episiotomy and then developed a hematoma and lost a substantial amount of blood. Not long after, my thyroid went a bit mad and I had to have it removed a few years later due to medication not improving it.

I had a midwife appointment the recently and they confirmed the baby is back to back and I think it's just bringing up a lot of panic and fear from the first pregnancy.

I really don't want to spend the last trimester worrying the entire time so any thoughts on now to get past this would be really appreciated ❤️

Hi @Happierthanever91 I'm 37 weeks with baby 3 and I know how your feeling. Baby 1 was super relaxed lovely water birth. Baby 2 was traumatic, very quick labour, his heart rate kept dipping, he came out hand against face so had to be pushed back in.. was all scary for me.

Now ever closer to baby 3 I'm just reminding myself each labour is very different! Hopefully this time it will be a calmer situation. Just take each day as it comes, try and focus on the baby your gonna meet rather than your previous experience. The calmer you can be the more your body will relax and hopefully be an easier experience all round xx

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I had a similar experience in that my first birth outcome was very traumatic and then I really struggled in anticipation of the birth the second time round. Something that did help was doing the positive birthing company's Hypnobirthing program online - the videos made me feel more informed and relaxed and it wasn't too expensive as far as Hypnobirthing goes. There are also tips on there and on YouTube about turning baby if they are back to back- I did these as my second was back to back and it seemed to work just in time!

Also, if it helps my second birth was nothing like my first and I often hear lots of positive stories about second births going smoother. Although I completely understand that the unknown is just so hard to manage in that build up.

Have you been able to discuss your fears with the midwives? They can be really helpful and put support in place. At the hospital we used for the second birth they offered a service where a midwife discussed our last birth and planned for how they could make it better this time.

Sending big hugs and lots of positive vibes for the birth - you've got this 💕 X

Thank you both so much for your replies ❤️ I'm going to speak to my midwife and have a proper chat with my other half and just get it all out. I think I've been too worried to do so as of yet in case I put a damper on things by sounding negative but I know I'm just overthinking that

Sounds like a great plan 💕 don't hold it all in - they will be able to support you x