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Miscarriage - now what?

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EstelleK88 · 27/04/2022 21:16

Hello. We found out I miscarried yesterday and we are devastated.

I just kind of wanted a little advice of other peoples stories after miscarriage and going on to having successful, healthy pregnancies and babies? I am so terrified this will happen again.

Also, do I class the bleeding I’m currently having as my period? It was due about now anyway.

Thank you xx

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numberthirtytwowindsorgardens · 27/04/2022 21:26

I'm so sorry for your loss.

After my miscarriage, I bled for quite a long time and took a while to get back into my normal cycle, which is usually very regular. (It wasn't actually long - but it felt it at the time!) I was desperate to get pregnant again and was pregnant three months later. She's now here and healthy.

I wish you the same luck - remember that most miscarriages are just a stroke of bad luck and don't mean anything sinister about your ability to conceive or carry a child. And be gentle with yourself - it's a horrible time and you may well be a bit insane for a while (I certainly was).

Flowers
HarryPotterGeek84 · 28/04/2022 00:07

I’m so sorry for your loss, I know how devastating it is. I miscarried on 22nd March at 12+5, less than 24 hours after a scan where there were no concerns. I bled for 2 weeks and it would have been around the time of a period, but was told it wasn’t counted as a period. I had my first negative pregnancy test after 3 weeks and my first period started this week, so about 5 weeks after it happened and it has been much heavier than I have previously experienced.

I was very frustrated by the lack of support available through my GP/EPU as they won’t really do anything until you’ve had 3+ miscarriages - which I understand in the grand scheme of things. I have decided to go private to see if there’s anything I need to be aware of that could have caused it and also for the added support if / when we conceive again. I’ve only had one appointment so far but it has made me more hopeful and provided some assurance that it wasn’t anything I did, it also confirmed everything had reset as it should and I’d ovulated.

One thing that has become apparent since it happened is that it’s more common than I thought and most of the women I have spoken to have gone on to have successful pregnancies, which also gives me some hope.

Wishing you all the best for your recovery journey x

Justkeeppedaling · 28/04/2022 00:11

I was also pregnant again quite quickly after my miscarriage. My GP DM told me i was getting on a bit and to crack on with it!

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EstelleK88 · 28/04/2022 09:17

numberthirtytwowindsorgardens · 27/04/2022 21:26

I'm so sorry for your loss.

After my miscarriage, I bled for quite a long time and took a while to get back into my normal cycle, which is usually very regular. (It wasn't actually long - but it felt it at the time!) I was desperate to get pregnant again and was pregnant three months later. She's now here and healthy.

I wish you the same luck - remember that most miscarriages are just a stroke of bad luck and don't mean anything sinister about your ability to conceive or carry a child. And be gentle with yourself - it's a horrible time and you may well be a bit insane for a while (I certainly was).

Flowers

Thank you for your message. It’s brought me a lot of hope. I think cos I’m nearly 34 and it was my first pregnancy, I’m just so scared in case that might by why it happened, and there’s not really anything I can do about my age.

The bleeding has eased a lot today which is good. But I would like to try again asap really. We go on holiday on 16th May which couldn’t be more perfect timing to go and relax and enjoy ourselves xx

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EstelleK88 · 28/04/2022 09:22

HarryPotterGeek84 · 28/04/2022 00:07

I’m so sorry for your loss, I know how devastating it is. I miscarried on 22nd March at 12+5, less than 24 hours after a scan where there were no concerns. I bled for 2 weeks and it would have been around the time of a period, but was told it wasn’t counted as a period. I had my first negative pregnancy test after 3 weeks and my first period started this week, so about 5 weeks after it happened and it has been much heavier than I have previously experienced.

I was very frustrated by the lack of support available through my GP/EPU as they won’t really do anything until you’ve had 3+ miscarriages - which I understand in the grand scheme of things. I have decided to go private to see if there’s anything I need to be aware of that could have caused it and also for the added support if / when we conceive again. I’ve only had one appointment so far but it has made me more hopeful and provided some assurance that it wasn’t anything I did, it also confirmed everything had reset as it should and I’d ovulated.

One thing that has become apparent since it happened is that it’s more common than I thought and most of the women I have spoken to have gone on to have successful pregnancies, which also gives me some hope.

Wishing you all the best for your recovery journey x

I’m so sorry that happened to you, how awful. I was talking to a friend yesterday, she had a similar experience to yourself, but she went for her scan and was told she had had a silent miscarriage 😞she had no symptoms, bleeding or anything. I just can’t imagine going through that.

I think the medical way they look at things can be cold at times, I think they need to look at things from a more personal and emotional side.

Thank you, and you. Fingers crossed we both get our baby very soon xx

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EstelleK88 · 28/04/2022 09:23

Justkeeppedaling · 28/04/2022 00:11

I was also pregnant again quite quickly after my miscarriage. My GP DM told me i was getting on a bit and to crack on with it!

Oh wow that’s amazing, although a little harsh! I am getting on myself I’m 34 in July so I already feel the pressure of my age xx

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Raindrops2015 · 28/04/2022 11:28

I had a MMC picked up at a 9 week scan. Baby had stopped growing at 6w2d. I had surgery at 11 weeks, fell pregnant less than 2 months later. It has been tough and very anxious. I'm on progesterone, low dose aspirin and high dose vit D. I've had 5 scans now. Baby is measuring ahead and it's all looking very healthy. This time 5 months ago I was devastated and didn't know how I was going to get through Christmas. It's all behind me. It will be for you too. 34 is still young. I'm 40.

To the lady @HarryPotterGeek84 who lost her baby after the 12 week scan. I'm so sorry you went through that. I hope you get answers. I would recommend you go private for answers as it was quite late in the pregnancy for that to happen and the NHS way of doing things is so slow.

Justkeeppedaling · 28/04/2022 11:33

Oh wow that’s amazing, although a little harsh! I am getting on myself I’m 34 in July so I already feel the pressure of my age xx

That's my DM for you!Grin. She was right though. Having a miscarriage is horrible, and you have my sympathy. I still think about what that baby would have been like. But it was 25 years ago now, and if I'd had that baby I wouldn't have had DD2.

I was 34 too at the time.

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EstelleK88 · 28/04/2022 12:07

Raindrops2015 · 28/04/2022 11:28

I had a MMC picked up at a 9 week scan. Baby had stopped growing at 6w2d. I had surgery at 11 weeks, fell pregnant less than 2 months later. It has been tough and very anxious. I'm on progesterone, low dose aspirin and high dose vit D. I've had 5 scans now. Baby is measuring ahead and it's all looking very healthy. This time 5 months ago I was devastated and didn't know how I was going to get through Christmas. It's all behind me. It will be for you too. 34 is still young. I'm 40.

To the lady @HarryPotterGeek84 who lost her baby after the 12 week scan. I'm so sorry you went through that. I hope you get answers. I would recommend you go private for answers as it was quite late in the pregnancy for that to happen and the NHS way of doing things is so slow.

I’m so sorry. How awful. So do they keep a closer eye on you when you’ve had a miscarriage? I believe it’s only if you have recurrent miscarriages. I’ve been told I need to do a pregnancy test in a week or so to make sure I’m negative and then I’m free to try again.

I think the fear will be there, I am a worrier as it is! But I’m really hopeful everything will work out with the next one 😊 I was so worried I wouldn’t be even able to fall pregnant and I did so that’s a good start xx

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justanotherlaura · 28/04/2022 12:16

I had a chemical pregnancy and miscarried at 5+3 on Christmas Eve, it was devastating even though it was early. Luckily I fell pregnant again on the second cycle after and am 14 weeks now. The first weeks of this pregnancy were horrible, I was sure something would go wrong again but everything is going well. Try to remember only 2% of women will have 2 in a row, obviously awful for those that do but try to stay positive!

Raindrops2015 · 28/04/2022 15:31

@EstelleK88 no. I paid for most of those scans privately. I also paid for a scan after my surgery to make sure my womb was healthy to try again. NHS do not offer great aftercare for miscarriage.

Due to the surgery I waited one full cycle before trying again and took the precaution of private follow up scan. They say there's no reason to wait but my next period (not bleeding from cycle) was strange, different and I think my body was still clearing out pregnancy products so I think it's best to wait til after your first proper period.

Raindrops2015 · 28/04/2022 15:31

*not bleeding from surgery and pregnancy loss

Chanel05 · 28/04/2022 17:45

I'm sorry for your loss. I had a mmc in April 2019. Bleeding is your period, yes.

I conceived again in December 2019 and now have a 19 month old dd. I am now 5 weeks pregnant again with baby 2.

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