We are approaching 38 weeks pregnant and finalising plans for when labour happens! My sister and her husband have offered to take our almost two year old for however long when things happen which is lovely and super kind, however, my MIL wants to come over for a week before our due date and stay for however long when baby arrives.
MIL would be living with us in our two bed flat where space is already limited... normally when MIL and FIL visit, my partner and I go into the day bed in our sons nursery and they have our bedroom. I don't feel overly comfortable giving up my bed at this stage of pregnancy and not being "free" when labouring at home. With my first, I was in and out of the bath, pacing back and forth in the living room, on the ball etc and I'm not sure how it's going to work with MIL around.
Don't get my wrong she ADORES our son and cannot wait for this new arrival, although, when she does visit she isn't very hands on and has never actually changed a nappy (not even a wet one)... has never made a meal when visiting and tends to just sit and watch our son play which is fine as she probably assumes we have it all covered. We instigate her bathing him which she will happily do but most of the time she won't offer or just do things to help. This is another concern as I feel I will be making sure she is ok and I can see myself running after our toddler whilst she soaks up baby cuddles when he is here. I COULD BE COMPLETELY WRONG and this is where I am asking for some advice and thoughts!
My partner is really upset that I'm on the fence with her visiting and staying with us but I feel it's only a natural reaction considering I'm the one birthing our child and would like to be comfortable in our own home when we are in the early stages... I really don't know what to do and I want to avoid upsetting anyone. What would you do?