Partner doesn’t want second child - my period’s late

[Welshmumofobe]

I’ve been with my partner for 6 years and we have a beautiful 3yo DD. We both work full time but I am the higher earner and he does all the nursery drop offs and pick ups and more of the childcare. He is a great father.
We had talked about having a second - he wasn’t keen but agreed that we would leave it to chance. I haven’t been taking temp etc but my period is now a few days late. I’ve told him and his immediate response was, I don’t want another child. He knows that he will be doing the majority of the childcare (there is no option for this to change) and I can understand his reservations, but I’m not sure if I can end the pregnancy. I’m in my 40s so probably the last opportunity I would have to have a second (although I also have some doubts about whether it is the right thing).
Can anyone offer any thoughts? I have read about this situation before but normally the woman has already been doing most of the childcare.
Thanks in advance for any advice.

Do you want another child?

Was he taking precautions? 🤔

You need to do a pregnancy test before both getting worked up about it OP, the worry might all be for nothing. But beyond that you Havnt left it to chance, you have been TTC by having unprotected sex, so he can’t just decide he doesn’t want it if you do, you’ve both made this choice on purpose so he has to deal with it really.

We have done a test which was very faint positive - we had the same with our DD, took more than a week to get a strong positive (although of course we might be worrying about nothing).

What do YOU want OP?

I’m really ambivalent now but can’t tell if that’s because he had such a negative reaction. I had always imagined having two but that imagining was with someone else who also wanted two!

Time solves a lot of things.

Well he can not want another child but then it was up to him to try and cast-iron prevent one. Now that you are pregnant the conversation has to move on. If you tell him you want the child and also that you don't want to abort (these two things are slightly different issues conflated by the same event), what does he then say?