Viability scan after multiple miscarriages - all the feelings

[Shesellseashells82]

Feeling all the feelings today. I have an early viability scan on Thursday after three recurrent losses in a row. It’s hard to know what to think or how to prepare emotionally. It’s easier to think it won’t go well, as that’s all I’ve ever known and I know how that goes and how to handle it. But then I want to feel hopeful.. but then I can’t bear the thought of being disappointed again. What a mess eh! Not sure what I’m after from this post. Not stories of everything turning out ok necessarily. Maybe just some solidarity from anyone whose been through it? That I’m not crazy…?

Didn't want to read and run - just to say good luck for Thursday 💐

Been there, @Shesellseashells82, and I felt exactly as you're describing. In the end I decided to allow myself to feel hope and a bit of excitement, because I thought if the pregnancy did continue I didn't want to 'ruin' it by fearing the worst the whole time. I also thought that maybe positive vibes would be good for the baby!

It was so hard though. I really feel for you

Good luck for Thursday OP. I was in your shoes in January (after 2 miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy and 3 years trying) and thankfully there was a heartbeat. Baby is now wiggling around in my tummy and has passed 5 more scans with flying colours.

Good luck for Thursday! I was in the same position in September (now three days overdue), and found the best way to approach it for me was to take the stance that I was pregnant until told otherwise. It’s definitely difficult to be positive all the time, and very stressful, but hopefully you get good news. Will be thinking of you 🤞

Thanks everyone - really kind of you all.

@Shesellseashells82 how did you get on? X

@Shesellseashells82 ….. good luck for Thursday!! How far along will you be then?

I know how you are feeling, I have one booked for next Tues (but am trying book a private one for this Friday) after two losses last year. It’s so hard to think there could be a positive outcome after always just having bad news!

I’ll keep everything crossed for you! X

@Shesellseashells82 good luck for Thursday my lovely and @Willow11981 I have a visibility scan on Tuesday too at 6 weeks. Had MMC October and MC Jan, plus spotting yesterday so I am FREAKING!!!

@Tulip1112 …..oh no sorry to hear you had spotting, I really hope its nothing to worry about and Tues goes well!!
lots of people seem to spot and it’s totally normal but I can imagine how much it’s adding to an already stressful time!! X

@Shesellseashells82 good luck for today, thinking of you and really hope you get some reassurance ❤️

I've got a 7 week scan next Thursday due to 2 previous losses. It's impossible not to worry. As others have said, just trying to take it day by day and stay positive.

Good luck today @Shesellseashells82. It is one of the most nerve wracking things, going to a scan after loss(es). So sorry you've been through it 3 times. Thinking of you and hoping for good news xx

Best of luck OP for today, I've been there too after 3 recurrent losses. I'm almost 37 weeks after what has been the slowest 37 weeks ever. The first viability scan if everything ok gives a little bit of hope and a tiny bit more with each scan you have but in all honesty the fear never leaves you. Just tick each day off as it comes.

Hoping for good news for you 💕

@bez91 I’m not the OP but thank you so much for you much for your comment. I’m currently 4-5 weeks after 3 loses and I’m so scared. It’s nice to hear a positive story x

@Shesellseashells82 how did it go lovely? I've been thinking of you x x