Advice for potential labour alone

[DeeDee20]

Hi everyone.
I’m 38 weeks pregnant FTM and just arguing with husband all the time. It’s never been this bad. It’s so stressful and I’m so worried it’s effecting baby boy, all I read for birth is needing oxcytocin. Well I’m not going to have that now, I feel super alone.
Any advice for labouring alone and potentially the end of a relationship 2 weeks from birth.

Oh bless you, sounds really tough. If you can, forget all about fecking oxytocin. I spent my whole birth worrying about it and trying to force myself to think happy thoughts...all that did was create more tension. Your baby will come when and how he wants!
Is there anyone else you can ask to be a birth partner? I didn't birth alone but sometimes wish I had- my husband was bloody useless and did not improve once baby arrived (we have split up). I totally trusted the midwives I had and they looked after me and DD so well so would have been OK about being alone with only their help.
Try not to fixate on the birth and think about the support you need once baby is born and the best people to have around.

I've had 3 and for the first two DH was only there for the delivery, during my last I really struggled as he was there and an clearly am one of the women who would really like to go into a dark corner. Midwife said it wasn't unusual. So please don't feel like you need to have anyone.

If you do could you afford a doula if you don't have friends/family you can ask?

Also, have a think about who gets baby first, cuts the cord etc

As PP has said, forget about oxytocin. I was so stressed and anxious prior to the birth but it went well in the end. Do you have a close friend or family member you can ask to be your birth partner, if you’re sure you don’t want your husband there? Otherwise, I found the midwives were fabulous when I was in parts of labour alone during the lockdown, they were so lovely and supportive. You sound like you’re going through a really tough time OP, please do take care of yourself over the next couple of weeks

So sad to hear this do you not have a family member or friend who can be your birth partner. If you don’t then I wouldn’t worry my friend got to the hospital with minutes to spare but she didn’t know her mum and sister was outside and her partner on the way from work she went in a side room to be examined and give birth in there. She said that she was fine with herself and midwifes and actually preferred it than her first birth with her mum and partner present.

Thank you for your responses. I just can’t believe I find myself in the most stressful situation so bloody close to birth. We’ve spent the last 9 months preparing for this and to now it feels like I’ll be doing it alone.
I don’t have family close and don’t really have friends I want there for such an intimate thing.
You’re all right though, I have the midwifes for support and I could look into a doula. I didn’t think of that. I hope this stress isn’t hurting the baby.
Thank you again for you’re support x

Honestly, I wouldn't have known whether my husband was there or not for my first 2 births. I didn't want anyone to touch me and was so 'in my own world' I was oblivious to who was around. I'm glad my husband witnessed them and I'm hoping this time (pregnant with 3rd) I may let him near enough to give some support 😂
Try not to worry about the stress hurting the baby, and try not to make a definite decision on partner being there or not. On the day you may want him there, and regardless of your relationship status he is still the father. You can create a lovely atmosphere without it centering around him if that's what you choose. Create a playlist, maybe take something with a nice smell, dim the lights and concentrate on bonding with the baby x

I did 2 births alone and they was the best births fast and stress free.