Maid of honour and 6 months pregnant

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I want to handle telling my best friend that I’m pregnant sensitively because I’m her maid of honour and will be 6 months gone by the wedding day. She purchased our bridesmaids dresses last September and I definitely won’t be fitting into the size 8 slinky dress that fit me then.

She’s a big worrier/control freak/planner type (like myself) so I know she’s going to have concerns about how this will impact the wedding once the excitement settles.

The dresses have a 28-day returns policy because they are from ASOS. So I’ve gone ahead and bought a size 12, ready as an option for after I’ve told her. But I don’t think the dress will look right or be comfortable given the fit. My work colleague who is 6 months pregnant right now has offered to try on the dress when it arrives to see what it would look like, which will massively help my bestie make her mind up about the dress.

Is it unreasonable for me to suggest I have a different style dress in the same colour as the other bridesmaids? Or should I just be offering to step down as MOH and attend as a guest?

Definitely a reasonable request/suggestion! You will feel a bit uncomfortable at 6 months pregnant in a normal wear dress. As MOH it wouldn't be weird to have a different dress anyway. Having your pregnant friend try it on is a good idea to help your friend "adjust" to the look, but also please remember pregnancy bodies vary wildly in size/shape by 6 months. Also, congratulations!

I had the opposite scenario to you, I was pregnant when choosing the bridesmaids dresses so couldn’t try them on and had to guess what size I’d be post-baby. So I understand the stress!

I don’t think you need to offer to step down, she’ll think you don’t want to be a bridesmaid any more.

Just have a chat and see what she thinks. For 6 months though I think you will need a proper maternity dress though, not just a bigger size. Assuming the chosen dress doesn’t have a maternity option?

I'm 23 weeks pregnant and haven't got much of a bump...im still the same dress size I was before I got pregnant just a little wider round the middle. As long as you are happy to pay to get the 12 taken in so it fits elsewhere I think you may be fine?

It depends on what the dress is - if it’s one of those standard multi-way BM dresses it will look fine in a bigger size

I’d leave it with the bride though and let her decide

At 6 months I was wearing ordinary clothes, just a size up or loose style