When do you announce ?

[Kezhoust2586]

Hi ,

I'm looking for some advice ,
With my past pregnancies I've always waited until after my first scan to announce it to people.

I am 5 weeks today and have told the parents , and my older 3 children .

I have some friends who will be so excited to know but I feel that if I announce it to them now I'm going to jinx my pregnancy 🤰.

Would love to hear your thoughts 💭

I told everyone straight away !
Ivf for us and close friends and family knew so for us it was less pressure
I told my daughter at 9 weeks I think or around that time after a couple of early scans
Best friend the day I did my test along with family and then work a few weeks after
But for me i don't see it as a massive taboo it's a celebration and because maybe I did ivf and needed time off for scans etc it was just easier telling people
Facebook announcement after 17 weeks as had gender scan but most people knew by then
I know for some they would rather wait but for me it felt right x

I waited till after 12 weeks apart from best friend and mom.

Told most of my family at 6 weeks and everyone else at 12 weeks with DD. This time I’ve told my bestie but I’m holding off telling everyone as long as I can hide it before 12 weeks.

Announce when you want to.
Depending on the ages of your children they may tell people anyway.

I waited until well after the anomaly scan to tell people but I have friends who have told me straight away.
The important thing is to do whatever you feel comfortable with.
I wouldn't have found it helpful to talk to people if the pregnancy had not progressed. Obviously there are no guarantees at any stage but I preferred to wait until later.

I told some close friends straight away, and family at 7w after an early scan. Everyone else I want to wait until after 12w scan especially as it's been 2 weeks since the early scan and I'm getting anxious again now

In both pregnancies I waited till after the 12 week scan to tell anyone at all, even parents.

Congratulations!

Told the parents about 6 weeks.
I had to tell my boss at work at 8 weeks as I was just throwing up constantly and she knew something was up!
Made a general announcement to friends and work colleagues after 12 wk scan.

So I only told people who I would feel comfortable telling if something (god forbid) went wrong. So mum, best friends (obviously the father 😂)

12 weeks I told my other close friends and Then I waited for my 20 week scan before I told everyone else (work colleagues etc)

12 weeks when you know everything is going well and all the risks reduce dramatically feels like the right time but it’s your personal journey so do what feels right for you. It’s the hardest secret to keep when you’re excited :)

After several losses I only told people I’d feel comfortable telling of something we’re to go wrong so my 2 best friends and husband.

After 12 week scan we told family but I’ve had two losses later than that so help off telling majority of people
Until after 20 week scan

But it should be whatever and whoever you feel comfortable telling. You won’t jinx it by saying early

After a MMC at 13 weeks I wouldn't tell anyone until after the 12 week scan, maybe except very very close family if they need to know.

I would have definitely waited until after first scan to tell anyone otherwise you're the woman whose pregnant forever.

"Announcing" at a month gone is a bit unnecessary but do what you like.

I just feel I would need the support from family members and my best friend if something did go wrong 😑.

Miscarriages are such a taboo and I don't feel women are totally supported when it happens to them.

I just wanted to get other's opinions as being pregnant is such an emotional rollercoaster and even though DH/P go through it with you ....only a woman can truly understand .

Thankyou ladies! X

Close friends any family almost immediately, I told other people in my daily life after an early private scan about 8/9 weeks, I had a mmc once after that but I needed their support anyway. It was obvious before 12 weeks for me I was asked multiple times by strangers about my due date before I was 12 weeks. I think I announced on Facebook at either 12 or 16 weeks can’t remember.

I am currently 10 weeks pregnant and we have told most of our close family and friends already, as they knew it was on the cards for us to try soon and I wouldn’t get away with not drinking 🤣 I was of the mind that we would want support from them if it doesn’t work out, but also so we didn’t get the ‘when are you going to have a baby?’ questions anymore if the worst does happen. I’m planning to announce to wider friends/family and work colleagues after the 12 week scan.

I waited until 11 weeks after I'd had a couple of scans, purely because as soon as we tell our work, we get put on fully paid leave until the birth (after that maternity for a year) and I would have found it too hard to have told them at say 6 weeks.....then gone on leave and had something happened I'd have been back at work with everyone asking why.

I told family and close friends as soon as I tested. It was our third ivf cycle and I think the stigma that comes along with ivf and pregnancy announcements needs eradicated!

Personally, I'd rather have everyone support me through a loss than go through it alone or have to tell people after I'd lost the baby.

Very personal choice though and there's no right or wrong

Family and close friends very early on as I'd had recurrent losses and needed support.

Colleagues, some towards the end of the first trimester, some not until I started to show.

Social media acquaintances, not until after he was born.

I would tell DP (obviously), parents and best friend. I would wait until the 12 week scan to tell other family members. Yes miscarriage is taboo, but it would be heartbreaking to tell everyone if you had an early miscarriage. The less people who know the better. I personally think 5 weeks is too soon to tell your dc.

I told close some very close friends and family before my scan, I'd have appreciated their support if I had ended up miscarrying,
But I wouldn't tell other children until later on in the pregnancy

I won't be publicly announcing until after my 12 week scan , my older children are 19,17 and 15 .

My DDs 17/15 are very close to me and I don't think that it would be right to not tell them when I did , as if something did go wrong they would be upset that I hadn't told them. We are very open with one another and honest .

My best friend I think I will tell tomorrow as again she would be my main support after DH of course lol.

X

Oh wow a 20 year age gap between the dc! I think I still would wait for the first scan before telling dc so you can show them the scan pic. Causes them unnecessary upset if they were expecting a sibling and then you had an early miscarriage. It would different if it was later.