33 weeks into 2nd pregnancy and so overwhelmed

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I'm not really sure why I feel this crap but I'm hoping getting this off my chest will help, and others may have found a way through????

33 weeks with planned DC2. I'm a bit of a control freak but thought I let alot of it go with DS1 who is now 2.5. Now it's all coming crashing back!!! How do I get out of this tailspin?!

Second time round has been physically more exhausting, and I've just had 0 ability to exercise - a 15 min walk means a 2 hour nap! I work 4 compressed days while DS1 is in nursery 4 days so have just cut out physical activity where pos just to keep functioning.

Back pain though minimal relative to pregnancy 1 where it was chronic from 8 weeks. But it just started again in full swing today and now it's nigh impossible to sit/lie/waddle in any position more than 5 mins.

About Xmas time DC1 who had been sleeping through etc regressed, started dropping naps etc, he's now sleeping next to me in bed while husbands next door. Will only come to me and now climbs out of cot.

Our house plans have not progressed with all the various construction industry woes and bad luck with planning in southwark.so now we will have to carry on living in a v drafty unsuitable house for however many years. Everything keeps breaking - inc the toilet as of today which means no functioning toilet in house.

Money will be tight as we remortgaged for this dump of a house so shouldn't take more than 7 months off. But I'm also nervous about stepping back off career ladder (what ever prospects I've managed to claw back after last time anyway) so will probably be screwed on return again anyway.

But also need to stop working now as I just don't know how i can juggle all this for another 6 weeks.

On the other hand we were all isolating with covid last week, I've got worst symptoms, including insomnia presently - which could be covid or pregnancy, I can't tell!!!

This baby is moving like mad and I'm convinced will be early (DS1 was only a day early). But given health/work/DS1 care/house drama etc we have nothing ready for new baby when it turns up.

We keep reminding ourselves we are doing OK, privileged etc etc but I feel like we are just about to fall to pieces how does anyone do this???!

It sounds like you just need a complete break! You’ve got so much going on in your life and then throw on pregnancy, you must be exhausted!
You’ll also be a lot more tired this time because you’re already caring for your dc.
What happens on your day off? Is there anyone available to care for dc for at least a few hours to let you have some alone time and rest? I know it might be tough to arrange but even just a few hours of you lying on the couch or bed to relax and just try take your mind off of everything for a little while.
Just having that sort of break to yourself will help you later to gather your thoughts and help you plan out what needs done for the baby and the house etc

Yeah I think covid us just the final straw at the mo :( putting DS1 in nursery hopefuly every Fri too from after easter will help, why do we do this to ourselves!!!!

I get it, it’s an awful lot to have going on without the added worry of covid. I hope you’re all feeling okay! Take this time with your dd to watch films and just take it easy!

I totally understand.I am 34 weeks with dc3. DC 1 is 5 and DC 2 is 2.I am so tired. I am hoping when the baby is born some adrenaline will kick in and I will magically be able to do everything.

I'm 36 weeks with no 3 and am OK but have found that it's taken me a good couple of weeks to get properly over every bug in this pregnancy (including Covid which we all had again in January). So I wouldn't give up hope that you'll feel better again before the end. Honestly I would stop working though, you don't want to go into labour exhausted. I finished at 35 weeks and only went on that long because I was working completely at home and in quite a relaxed role so could nap after lunch! Also worth taking some iron maybe? I've been chronically anaemic this time round.

Good call on the iron @kalidasa forgot about that.

Am on hols for 2 weeks now so will try and chill and sort out some baby bits.

Had 2 nights wher

Had 2 nights of DC1 sleeping through which has made the world of difference!! Starting to adapt to the now constant backpain, sleeping sitting up ain't so bad 😴

@Sugarletters I'm not sure tiredness will ever go away now! Just trying to accept I will do less than normal for me so will just try and prioritise the things that need doing - and everything else will just dribble on

Thank you so much everyone for sharing your experiences, makes me feel less alone and crazy!

Yes, prioritise sleep, iron, orange juice, some steak? And let everything else slide for a bit. Your toddler might sleep a bit better / be less clingy if you can relax a bit too, I think they pick up on it when you're stressed. Easy to say though I know!

I totally get it. 35 weeks with DC2, DD is 20 months. Last pregnancy was really stressful given the world in early/mid 2020 but physically very straightforward. WFH, no commitments, sleeping 10pm - 8am every day. This one seems to be zapping me completely, I feel like I’ve aged 10 years in 8 months! Constantly run down with bugs from DD’s nursery, cash much tighter, so many more commitments and responsibilities, bad sleep, so much more to think about. No advice but sympathies - it’s so different to last time!

@ShadowPuppets such a great summary!!

Yh I think accepting going into this birth tired again. Going to have to rethink home birth i think. Last time I was so tired from lack of sleep from back pain I kept falling asleep between contractions, who knew that was possible

@kalidasa hadn't thought of DS1 cottoning on toy stress! V kuchen appreciating my amazing husband doing all the parental heavy lifting 💪