Getting through pregnancy with a toddler

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I know this is not uncommon but I’m having a much tougher time this pregnancy than I did with first baby. I was 36 then and 40 now, so I reckon that has something to do with it, but my nausea is worlds worse than with first baby and I’m absolutely shattered.

I’m a midwife and have long shifts. DH has been an absolute star and letting me sleep and doing all of the childcare, cleaning, and cooking. But I’m feeling so rubbish and guilty that I can’t be there for Lo, who is getting tearful that mummy can’t be there all the time and is sleeping in bed most of the weekend. And a bit guilty that DH isn’t getting any time for himself or any time with us as a couple.

Any tips for managing this? I am starting to feel a teeny bit better as I enter second trimester but still having a very rough time and feeling like a terrible mum and wife.

I did this last year and about to do it again with two toddlers this time as I just found out I am pregnant again!

I tried to set up a few activities that were not physically demanding and we could enjoy together with my DS (then 18 months). We focused on reading, doing puzzles and drawing mostly and left the running around in parks to dad. It's even nice when they just watch tv and you cuddle them. DS always cake and cuddles me in bed in the mornings and we got through a few books.

It's only a few months and soon passes so don't feel guilty.

It's been 8 months since I had the baby and he still seeks me out for puzzles and drawings every time. I think in his mind I am the expert.

Good luck!