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[Anon5656]

I 29F have a 5 year old son from a previous relationship. I have wanted a baby for so long with my current partner and he never thought he was ready. Due to some unforeseen circumstances it is beneficial to have a baby now as i might not be able to have any in the future. We talked a lot about it and i was ecstatic when he said we could start trying. We haven't started yet but he doesn't seem as excited as I am (or was) he doesn't seem happy about it and its been putting me off. I feel like now i don't even want to bother, no one in my life is happy about it and i feel so isolated. I've tried talking to him about it, and I've told him how i feel and he says he's sorry and that he is happy but i doubt he is. Should i even try? i feel crushed

I would not have a baby with someone who was not fully sure that he also wants a baby.

My husband is very much one emotion. He agreed to start trying for a baby and when I found out I was pregnant, he was happy but didn't show it all the time, only in flashes. He didn't touch the bump much or talk to it but when our son was born, he was the best dad and partner ever. He loves him so so so much and now we're pregnant with number two, he's the same again. I'm a very emotional person and it's unfair for me to expect him to be the same. If he's unhappy he will tell me. Don't let it put you off.

I agree with above posts, some people just show it differently and I think it's totally normal to agree to try as well as being terrified so maybe it's that? I would recommend a few sessions of counselling together if that doesn't sound off- putting. My partner and I had 6 sessions, about nothing serious but it really helped us understand each other better and can create a safer space to talk about difficult stuff.