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2 days of wedding celebrations at 8 months pregnant 5 hours away

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Spottybutterfly · 09/04/2022 12:36

I'm just looking for a bit of advice. 5 weeks before the due date we have been invited to a Sikh wedding. It's a 2 day celebration, in 2 separate locations in the midlands.

Im in 2 minds weather to go or just send my OH on his own (it's his friend). The plan original would be for us to stay in a hotel and if I felt ill to go back to the room. But the locations aren't near eachother so that won't be possible.

Part of the ceremony will involve sitting crossed legged.on the floor, will I even beable to do this by then?

What would I wear?

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Eskarina1 · 09/04/2022 12:46

I think as it's not your friend it would be more enjoyable all round for you to stay at home. I think you'd need so much adaptation (no sitting on the floor) and would be exhausted.

Also unless you have an amazing support network, alone time is going to be a rarity for a while.

Kaw10 · 09/04/2022 13:15

I would have said yes to attending the wedding....had it been the usual one day affair, possibly staying overnight and in one place. But no to different locations and not being able to retreat to a hotel.

Stay home and enjoy the peace and quiet, your DH's friends will understand.

Aimee1987 · 09/04/2022 13:18

I was going to say you'll be fine but having read that you cant easily run away to a hotel room and sitting on a floor ( for how long) may be tricky.

If husbands friend mabey let him go and have a couple of days to yourself to chill and watch some shitty TV.

Wookydook · 09/04/2022 13:20

I would have found even the car trip uncomfortable. And the whole weekend exhausting. I'd stay home, have a relaxing weekend and DH can go.

InvisibleDragon · 09/04/2022 13:24

I think if you want to go, get your husband to speak with his friend and see what accommodations are possible.

For the sitting on the floor part, I'm sure there will be other people (eg older relatives) who will not be sitting on the floor.

You could also ask if there is a quiet room at the venue that you could use to rest.

On the other hand, if it all feels like too much stress, I don't think anyone will be put out if you decide not to go.

FrangipanFlower · 09/04/2022 13:29

It would be a no from me. At this stage in pregnancy I felt so heavy and tired, i just wanted to be at home. I don’t think you’d be expected to sit on the floor though being so pregnant, you’d most probably be offered a seat. Sikh wedding receptions are big boozy lively affairs, I wouldn’t have enjoyed that either at 8 months. By 8/9pm I just felt like collapsing into bed.

Chely · 09/04/2022 13:36

Do whatever you are comfortable with. I'm sure they would be happy to make adjustments for you at the ceremony or let you sit at the side with others not as able bodied.

I would have been happy to go at that stage but I was still doing heavy weightlifting up to 35+2 with my youngest singleton despite spd. I built our twins cot (mostly sat on the floor) alone at 30wk which was uncomfortable but doable, I was HUGE with them too.

Flowerbug1994 · 09/04/2022 13:45

Could you possibly go just for one day and stay over night at one location. It’s so hard to say how you’ll be am 31 weeks now and some days I feel like I could do anything other days I feel like I haven’t got the energy to move. I would either decline or see how you are closer to the time. Would also be looking at how far from home it is and what hospitals are close incase of a early arrival

welshladywhois40 · 09/04/2022 21:54

It all really depends on how you feel. If this the type of wedding that might be more flexible on numbers so you could confirm nearer the time?

Everyone is different but with my first I remember being really annoyed that I had two cancel two night out as labour started on due date and decorated the nursery at week 39 (got some strange looks in b&q buying paint).

So for me - given how much life changes once the baby arrives - I wanted to do as much as I could before he arrived.

For other people it would be the last thing they would want to do

Neverreturntoathread · 09/04/2022 22:28

Nope. Nope nope nope.

By 8 months you want to be staying within a short drive of the hospital where you plan to give birth.

Nope. Send DH alone or not at all but don’t do this to yourself.

Weathergirl1 · 10/04/2022 14:25

I was uncomfortable sitting in a car for a 3 hour journey at 33-34 weeks (we had to keep stopping every hour) so you might need to factor longer for the drive if you do decide to go.

I also went on a punting trip (we live in Cambridge) where you sit on the floor of the punt, at 27ish weeks and it was nearly totally unbearable, I was so uncomfortable (I would have got out but it was a night time bat safari and there wasn't an option to get out!). Unless they can accommodate you potentially not sitting on the floor, I'd be very hesitant.

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Spottybutterfly · 10/04/2022 21:12

Thanks for the advice everyone. I've told my husband to go on his own.

We've been invited to a different wedding the same distance away 6 weeks after my due date. I already told OH to go on his own, I don't want to travel that far for baby as we'd need to stop and take it out the car seat every half hour.

We went to the cinema yesterday and I struggled to sit for 2.5 hours so no way I'd manage a 5 hour car journey even now.

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