Trigger warning Miscarriage question... spotting pink and cramping then nothing?

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I'm 8 weeks pregnant following FET we were told a few days ago at the scan that while baby has a strong heartbeat they're measuring way behind where they should be and to expect a miscarriage.

Last night I had a small amount of pink spotting after progesterone suppositories followed by cramping for a few hours and then nothing. This morning no cramping or spotting... is this usually how miscarriages start? Like spotting that starts and stops?
This whole thing is such a mind melt. I've never been through this before sorry if this is hurtful for anyone.

Hi

In my experience when this happened in November. I went for a scan thinking I was 7 weeks but I was only measuring 6 weeks with a heart beat . Unfortunately 2 days after the scan I started spotting but just kept spotting then it would stop then it would start again. I went to the hospital who did a scan and unfortunately the heart beat had stopped, I decided to go down the natural miscarriage route which took me 2 weeks for it to fully happen, But you get other people who go through this and there absolutely fine and baby has grown at the next scan

I’m thinking of you, hope I haven’t worried you with my experience. Just didn’t want to read and run x

I had constant period pains for 2 days before the baby passed and constant light bleeding x

@CLC22 thank you, no I really appreciate your honestly. I just want to have an idea of what to expect. I'm sorry that you went through it it's really hard.

@girlmom21 thank you. I'm sorry for your loss. So many of us in similar positions

Thank you ❤️ hopefully it's just normal bleeding as it's been so light.

I've got everything crossed for you xx

Thank you 💕 I’m thinking of you and update us when you know anymore x

You read a lot about people bleeding and measuring behind
But as one person has said it could be a miscarriage but unfortunately only time will tell
But I have everything crossed for you
I've read lots and lots of times that it could still be a postive result
One of my scans I was measuring 6 days behind and was worried - it was one of many early scans, I even did a post on it
I was told a week behind/over is normal at this gestation x

@strawberrysummer19 thank you. You guys are all so kind. There has been no bleeding today. I have a follow up scan on Thursday.

For those of you that have been through a miscarriage did you have to go to work as if everything is normal while you were going through it?. The doctor who scanned me gave me a cert for next week but if the worst happens it might go on for a few weeks..... I guess I just have to go back to work right?

did you have to go to work as if everything is normal while you were going through it?

I was - is lucky the right word? I was on furlough going through the redundancy process.
I lost the baby a week before redundancy was made official but I didn't have anything worse than period pain and bleeding wasn't worse than a period. I knew when I'd lost the baby but I could've worked through it physically. I think I'd have struggled emotionally

@girlmom21 thank you and apologies if that question seemed intrusive. People don't really talk about their experiences in real life (or at least my friends and family don't) so it's good to get an idea of what to expect.

I'll be honest. That has happened to me in two pregnancies. One time I miscarried the second time everything was fine. Only time will tell. I know it's terrifying though.

You don't have to work - you have to do what is right for you. I have had two mc and for the first I took a week off and for the second I took a day off.

You might find you just can't work and can't focus or it helps give you something else to focus. Do what you need to do.

My second was a natural mc after 5 days of spotting. To be very honest I got about 5 mins warning of the actual mc starting when I had cramps. The cramps were painful but it was over very quickly.

I hope everything works out for you. And most important look after yourself

Thank you for sharing your experiences. I've had no more spotting or cramping but I think some of my pregnancy symptoms have eased off so preparing myself for the worst on Thursday. It's sad not just because I loved that little baby from the moment I saw the 2 lines but also because it means I won't be able to give my daughter a sibling. We can't afford to do IVF again and even if we could I don't know if I could put myself through it all again the money the injections the invasive procedures just to lose everything after hearing the heartbeat. It's too hard.

Plus I'm 37

Hi OP. I’m so sorry for your situation. I just wanted to contribute on your question about time off - as a PP has said the physical side of it is doable at work, assuming your role isn’t too strenuous physically, but I needed the time off for the emotional side of it. It was devastating (infertility, MMC). So, if you need the time then definitely take it. I actually was out of the office for two weeks but my boss was super understanding.