Missed miscarrge - No bleeding yet

[Joyce7905]

Hi there,
I went for two private early reassurance SCANS (8 weeks and 9.5 weeks) to find out the fetus inside me stopped growing at 6 weeks 1 day. I went to epu yesterday (10w) and they had the same result (measuring at 3.9mm) but won't abort me until a second scan after Easter holiday.

I've been sad since the first private scan , the second scan only proved my worst fear. We are depressed but getting on with life. I thought the 3rd scan with epu would be a closure, already booked a couple days off, I was just going to treat this as a bad period. :( I told the nurse I thought about calling epu earlier but I was trying to save them money.....

Anyway I only had some light spotting yesterday, no heavy bleeding...... has anyone experienced this? When will the bleeding start? As if this is not shit enough.

I'm so sorry for your loss.
My experiences aren't exactly the same as yours but might be helpful.
When I had my first miscarriage I was spotting for 3 days before I passed the pregnancy tissue. On the 4th day I had painful cramping and a lot of red blood. I went to A&E and miscarried fully there.
With my second I had an empty sac which was discovered at 10 weeks. The spotting started around 11 weeks and lasted a couple of days before passing the tissue. I then had a scan which showed retained placental tissue which showed no signs of moving so I had an MVA to remove it.
Fingers crossed for you that things move quickly so you can move on and heal. You can ask for medication at the EPU to make the process happen more quickly if you think this would be best and they should give it to you.

I am so sorry for your loss. I was in a similar situation a few years ago - went for a 8 weeks scan as something didn't feel right and baby had stopped growing a week before. No heartbeat

That was on a Saturday morning (private scan) and I had surgery on the Wednesday with no spotting of any sign.

For me - I opted to go to surgery as I just found it unbearable knowing the baby was still inside but not alive. It helped me cope and move forward getting treatment as quickly as possible.

So sorry OP, it's an awful time.

My epu were happy to accept the written report from the private scan so I didn't have to have second epu scan to confirm no growth.

Is this an option?

I found the waiting awful.

@LuckyWithMyLot

So sorry OP, it's an awful time.

My epu were happy to accept the written report from the private scan so I didn't have to have second epu scan to confirm no growth.

Is this an option?

I found the waiting awful.

Thanks guys, yeah we showed them my two reports they said its just the policy. They are all sympathetic and apologetic but nothing else they can do. I understand where the hospital is coming from but it's just not easy. What did women do before early scan was a thing? I don't regret the private scans, think it would be even more painful to find out later that the baby never stood a chance.

I agree, I was glad I found out relatively early that the pregnant hadn't progressed (I was meant to be 7.5 weeks).

If you're spotting that's positive and you may start to miscarry soon.

I had no spotting so didn't miscarry until I took the medical management tablets, which was about 3 weeks after the heartbeat stopped.

I feel your pain. I'm in exactly the same position as you. I had early scans, with no heartbeat. NHS uninterested and told me to wait for my 12 week scan.
I was gutted and have anticipated to miscarry naturally.
2 weeks after second private scan now and although they contacted my GP, I rang EPU and I've rang my GP. I am still receiving correspondence about my current pregnancy. Like it isn't hard enough?

My boyfriend is watching me get quite distressed about going for scans in the hospital and re living it, so he's paying for it all to be done privately. (Well, his parents are)
I keep hoping to pass this miscarriage as baby died at 5w6 which worked out to be the day I found out my best friend died suddenly of a blood clot.
I think going private is the only way I'll be able to stay sane. Received my maternity certificate thing today as well 😢
Really do understand what you're going through. Sending big love xxx

So sorry OP. my first pregnancy ended at the very same gestation but I didn’t start bleeding until over 11 weeks.