When is normal to start showing?

[The3rdWatermelon]

I’m 12+5 today, and getting lots of comments from family about “you’ll start showing soon” “your clothes will be starting to feel tighter by now”
Well I’m not, and they’re not. I had IVF and am on daily injections into my stomach which has caused a lot of bloating and bruising, so I am doing the hair bobble on the jeans button thing, but only because it digs into the bruising when I sit down.
When I’m sitting and lean forward it feels like my stomach is a bit in the way, as though I’ve eaten too much, but I can’t see a difference.
I was very sick until about a week ago but that seems to have passed.
I have my scan on Thursday. I should be excited (and I’ve seen the heartbeat at the 6 week post-IVF scan and again at 8 weeks when I had a small bleed so surely the chances are good that everything will be fine…) but I’m just terrified that it’s stopped growing or isn’t developing as it should be.
This is my first pregnancy, I’m 33. It’s been 4 years of IVF and I’m desperate for some reassurance that this scan might not be the end of the road.

Everyone is completely different. With my first you couldn't tell I was pregnant at all, not even at the end. The second I showed around 20 weeks and the 3rd about 15 weeks.

I suspect there's no definitive answer, we're all different. I could feel my body change before it showed, just seemed and felt different. Do you mean shows enough others can tell or shows so that you (and partner) can tell, there was probably a month or more difference between those two (but perhaps it was our imagination to start with)

I think 12 weeks would be early to be showing with a first baby. I was also 33 with mine, started showing around 20 weeks

Those comments from your family are not helpful - anyone who says you "should" be feeling anything or "will" be getting any particular symptoms is talking nonsense. Maybe you could have a quiet word with the worst offenders and explain that you're anxious and don't want to hear stuff like that?

As PPs have said, every pregnancy is so, so different. I certainly wasn't showing at 12 weeks - maybe at about 15, but I think it was mostly bloating.

I was 20 weeks before I showed with my first. 11 weeks pregnant with my second before I even realised! Please don't worry yourself.

I was in maternity trousers by ten weeks in my first pregnancy whilst their was someone else in the office who was 39 weeks pregnant and still wearing her normal jeans. With my second I looked heavily pregnant by 12 weeks. Everyone is different!

I hate those comments- for me it was around 19 weeks for me to tell and about 25 weeks for other people x

Am now 37 weeks and absolutely massive however 😅

I was 18 weeks with my first when I got “the bump”. Currently 14+2 with DC2 and still nothing, even when I lie down, unless I have a really full bladder. I expected it by now as everyone says you show sooner with your second but nope! I have felt baby move already though!

Everyone is different :)

With my first, other people could tell at 9 weeks. With my 2nd, there was nothing to see until around 18 weeks. I think the position is everything!

I think around 20 weeks for me.

I am 12 weeks. I am not skinny but I have always managed to wear flattering clothes which don't reveal my belly. At the minute I look constantly bloated. I've had to start wearing maternity leggings as my pants are digging into me. I definitely wouldn't say its a bump just can't suck my belly in like usual! I have my scan next week and also had an early scan and saw the heartbeat at 7 weeks but I am still worried that either the heart has stopped or if there is a heartbeat there is something wrong. Hoping it goes well. X

First baby. People noticed at 6 months.

Similar to cookiedough123, no more sucking in the belly! have been between a 10 and 12 in jeans but the 29inch ones were chucked out by wk7 or 8 😳 no real sign of a bump just extra belly fat and near constant bloating that looks huge in the evening 🤣

I'm 24 weeks and honestly I don't think people would be able to tell if they didn't know! I think it's pretty common not to have a noticeable bump for a long time in your first pregnancy.

I was expecting to show by 18 weeks for sure and was surprised when I wasn't. I guess we just associate pregnant women with big bumps but it's not necessarily the case!

Huge congratulations on your pregnancy!

I was about 16 weeks with my first before I had to loosen the button on my work skirt. I could see a slight bump at 14 weeks with my second. My third pregnancy started out as a twin pregnancy and I really showed at 12 weeks. My DD when pregnant with twins showed at 6 weeks.

18 weeks I think. I have a photo of me at definitely 15 weeks and my belly is flat as a pancake lying down. I had a tiny bump at my 20 week scan, I remember. That was only noticeable lying down with my top up. I think it was noticeable through my clothes at around 23 or 24 weeks maybe, and only to those who knew I was pregnant and were looking. Please don’t worry yourself.

My midwife said 20 weeks. It was roughly around then that my bump was noticeable to others (first pregnancy).

I get that people are excited but wish they would just keep unnecessary comments like this to themselves.

I think I can depend greatly on your body pre pregnancy, for my first i was definitely past 13 weeks before I was showing.
I feel like one minute there's no belly and then in a blink, its twice the size.
Everything will be ok

Different for everyone but I'd say most folk don't have much to show by the 3 month mark. I was slim with a very flat tummy pretty much inverted. By about 16wks I cld see a difference but no one else cld. Still felt a bit of a fraud at the 20wk scan compared to others in the waiting room. Although to me I had a bump albeit a tiny one lol probably looked like a had a big dinner 😂

By 28wks it was a noticeable one and then got bigger every week at a much faster rate as it should as the baby grows towards the end.

I am in my third pregnancy now.
I am 32yrs old.
12weeks5days.
I am flat. No belly at all, just bloated after food ;) but in the morning I still have flat belly with visible muscles.
I had my 12weeks scan on Wednesday and I know that baby is growing and it's healthy so I am not worried, it will show eventually;)
You can see in the pic my belly in the morning vs afternoon ;)

People were still shocked I was pregnant at 24 weeks, I'm now 34 weeks & you can't miss it but I still get told I'm small & still wearing mainly non maternity clothes 😂

I’ve had 3 pregnancies and the earliest I’ve shown is 21 weeks with number 3.
I remember going for a growth scan with DS1 (2nd baby) at 36 weeks and someone asking if I was excited for my first scan 😂
Your families comments are really unhelpful. Please don’t worry OP, we’re all different!

My DD when pregnant with twins showed at 6 weeks.

How does this happen though? At six weeks a baby is I think less than half a centimetre in size or so. Even if there’s two that’s not a lot of space to take up. Is it just a lot of amniotic fluid? How would your uterus stick out so far at that point?

1st baby about 30 weeks.

2nd baby about 20 weeks.