Sick of hearing "it would be nice if you had a boy" 😡

[Jayjane79]

3rd baby and I have 2 daughters already. We find out the sex of the 3rd baby on Tuesday and I'm so excited. I couldn't care less if the baby is a boy or girl as long as everything is healthy. I'm hearing so much off friends and family "it would be nice if it is a boy" "I bet you Want a boy don't you?". It's like there's a look of disappointment if the baby is another girl. I'd never be so rude to say that to someone, especially if they've not expressed otherwise. I'm finding my self justifying why I wouldn't be bothered boy or girl to people and they are looking at me like I've got 3 heads. Is it me just being over sensitive ?

Mother of 3 girls here, can't have any more children and my 3rd had to fight in my womb to get to birth due to womb issues.

I got so sick of these comments, when it was said in front of my children I snapped. Very wrong of me to do so, but I was worried that my girls would feel they were not enough. My reply, I won't put on here as it will trigger many. But it soon shut the woman up.

Now I just say 'well actually no, but thank you for suggesting I am not happy with the beautiful girls I have'

I had this, I’m not very confrontational though and I just blanked people when they said anything. I did end up having a boy but we honestly couldn’t have cared less whether it was a boy or a girl, we’ve never had any preference. I’ve also had people say “oh well you don’t need to have anymore now you’ve had a boy too!”

I’m just very grateful for all of my beautiful children and I would like a 4th child, and if I’m lucky enough to get pregnant I still won’t be caring if it’s a boy or a girl.

I have boys and it’s the same. The amount of times I’ve been asked if I’m going to try for a girl. It’s offensive and stupid. I don’t want a third child, it doesn’t matter what sex they are.

Oh my I feel exactly the same ! My first baby we didn't find the sex and he was a Boy, now pregnant with baby number to, also having a surprise again and all I get it ' oh hopefully it will be a girl ' and I am sick to death of it!! Yes a girl would be lovely but as long as my baby is healthy I don't care !! I've got to a point now where I'm actually wanting another boy! And because my pregnancy is completely different to my 1st peolle are obviously saying 'oh its definitely a girl it's a completely different pregnancy ' which just isn't the case 😡😡

Ugh that's so annoying OP. My mum said something a while back along the lines of "if you don't have both you miss out" and I just think it's silly, your child is predominantly a person, not a sex, they are all different anyway. I already have a boy and dream of having three and if I ended up with three boys that would be awesome actually! and would have been with three girls too. Three girls is a lovely family. Just remember that your attitude is great and they are the ones being weird.

@Jayjane79 I'm pregnant with baby 3 and our 3rd daughter. And exactly the same, hand on heart didn't mind whatever we were having. The amount of people, including midwives who have said..oh I bet your hoping for a boy is crazy. Like a girl is second best.
I've just stopped listening, I know our family and my daughters are over the moon so that's enough for me.

My surprise has been how open people have been in asking if "this one was planned" I find it so rude, she was but not like it's anyone business and it changes anything. No one seems to ask for baby 1 or 2.

I sometimes think people just say things for something to say rather than anything else.
Congratulations on baby number 3.

No it’s not you being oversensitive, it’s bloody annoying! It’s my first baby but I’m one of 5 girls and my husband is the only son in his family so we’re constantly getting stupid comments about it being a boy. It’s relentless.

It's so rude. This obsession with having mixed sexes is a bit mad. Some people just want 3 kids or more it shouldn't be assumed that they're trying for the sex that they don't have one of.

I had this with our 2nd. Our first was a boy and people just assumed we wanted a girl with our 2nd! I honestly had no preference, after 2 losses I was just grateful to be pregnant with a healthy baby!

I had the same when I was pregnant with my second, as I'd already had a girl everyone assumed I'd be disappointed if my second wasn't a boy. Nope. As long as it's a healthy baby (I'd suffered a miscarriage in between), then I was happy. As it happened I had a boy. Then I got 'oh well done you've got one of each you can be done now..' so when I fell pregnant with baby #3 I was really upset by people saying things like 'but you already have one of each why are you having another?' It's just so unnecessary. My children are people first and foremost, whether they're boys or girls is neither here nor there.

I have a son and no other children yet I have had to endure the same comments. My husbands side of the family consists of all boys and so I've even had comments such as "we don't want another boy" from them. 😡 It infuriates me the majority of the time but it also makes me feel
quite sad as I know we are having another little boy and worry they won't love him the way they do the other children in the family. 😢