Gender reveal !! Did you find out before the guests ?

[Jayjane79]

Pretty much the title. Did you find out before the guests so at the scan or open the envelope on the way home. Other half is moaning saying he wants to know at the scan.

Or is that defeating the object of the reveal ?

It’s entirely up to you how you both find out.
We decided to find out at the scan and then kept it a surprise for our families until we burst the balloon. It was fun listening to all their ideas and thoughts when we knew for sure.
You could always do it separately so he can be informed at the scan and you can find out with family later?

I think the point of gender reveal is so everyone finds out at the same time and your family and friends get to see your reaction first hand to your news. I think it’s much more fun when everyone finds out together

Do people actually care what sex other people's babies are?

If you’re going to do it maybe don’t let anyone film it. Watching these online you can always, always tell when someone is disappointed. A little flash of ‘oh 😕’ goes across their face. Having that moment recorded forever for their child to later see and feel shit about is obviously not a great idea.

I think the whole point is everyone finding out together and sharing on that experience.

gender reveals are crass and unnecessary. the scan shows your babies sex (not gender) and gender is not important anyway. by all means have a party to celebrate your pregnancy but no need to focus on only one characteristic of the baby and to buy into a whole bunch of unnecessary gender stereotypes.

We found out at the scan and just rang round parents/friends ect 😊

It's just a personal preference whether you'd like to know first or wait and share it with your friends and family. I also really enjoy the gender reveals I've been to!

I would say though we had a much more thorough understanding of the scan as they were able to talk us through what they were looking at without ruining the surprise.

You'll get a lot of negativity on these types of threads but there's nothing wrong with finding out the gender of your baby 😊 exciting time for you and your partner! Wish you all the best!

I’m doing mine on Saturday as my scan is Saturday morning and I’ll be finding out first before I tell everyone then just act all surprised when the time comes later in the afternoon

There's no set rule on this. I do think you're being a bit harsh on OH saying he's 'moaning saying he wants to know at the scan'. If his opinion is he wants to know at the scan, that's valid. His baby too n that....?

@parietal

gender reveals are crass and unnecessary. the scan shows your babies sex (not gender) and gender is not important anyway. by all means have a party to celebrate your pregnancy but no need to focus on only one characteristic of the baby and to buy into a whole bunch of unnecessary gender stereotypes.

This is an occasion where you politely keep your opinion to yourself

If OP wants to do it then they can.

As for your actual question OP - however you want it to work would be fine :)

Don’t find out
If you do you might as well just tell people without a “reveal” party

@JamSandwich89

There's no set rule on this. I do think you're being a bit harsh on OH saying he's 'moaning saying he wants to know at the scan'. If his opinion is he wants to know at the scan, that's valid. His baby too n that....?

I totally forgot it was his baby to how awful of me.

Thank you. Yes very opinionated I have to agree.

Thank you everyone. Just back from town and gone extremely over the top with party decorations ooops lol. We find out on Tuesday and can't wait. Think the other half is going to wait a few extra hours and find out with the rest if us.

You may have to find out at the scan anyway. I'm a sonographer and in my trust we aren't allowed to write it down and put it in an envelope anymore.

@Malalaa

You may have to find out at the scan anyway. I'm a sonographer and in my trust we aren't allowed to write it down and put it in an envelope anymore.

This is a 16 week private scan. She's explained what options we have because they sell the balloons and canons there to. They've told me not to watch the video they send you until after the reveal as they point it out in the video as well with a big arrow and with the wirds typed "it's a ...... " next to the arrow. All so tempting lol. I'm glad we only have to wait an extra 5 hours until count down at the reveal.

Hope they can actually tell you!
All three of mine were determined not to reveal anything and I had to go back every time for re scans

We're finding out ourselves the week before, we're then getting cupcakes made with pink/blue centres for our families. We're going away to see extended family too the following day so we've ordered extra for them too!