Newly pregnant after miscarriage

[Libmama]

Hi

I am currently 3+2 according to lmp but I got my first faint positive on Thursday which I would have been 2+7? Is that even possible. I’m just putting twins to the very back of my mind at the moment!

Anyway, I had a miscarriage 18 months ago, it was unplanned as DP said he didn’t want anymore children although I openly said I did. We have two children 8 and 3 already.

Fast forward to now and I have discovered I am once again pregnant after a contraception failure. DP doesn’t know yet and I want to get past the 6 week mark where I had my last miscarriage before I broach the subject with him. He won’t be cross but he will be very disappointed in himself I know. He’s very practical and the thought of going from 2-3 is a massive issue in his mind. We’d need a new car etc, we’ve sold most of the baby stuff (still have my bugaboo as my 3 year old occasionally still uses it on long walks), just had the kitchen done and funds are low.

I am anxiously excited but also the timing isn’t great. I’m meant to be starting Uni in September etc. There is no question of termination though.

Anyway what I really wanted to know is is there anyone in the same boat? Either with a VERY early positive, partner that doesn’t want anymore or pregnant after a loss and testing every day to check those lines are progressing

Hey @Libmama first of all congratulations ❤️ I had a MC last feb and we were absolutely not trying and it was a huge shock, my partner wasn't particularly thrilled probably due to the shock but was supportive. I also had a MC with a previous partner a few years ago. I found out I was pregnant again in November and my partner was really happy. Although we never discussed trying or anything The second time think the fact that we had gone through it the first time made it easier for him to accept having a baby. In terms of the feeling after a miscarriage to be honest the worry never really goes away. I am 25 weeks now and stress over every tiny thing. I think that's pretty common tho. Just think you've had 2 successful pregnancies so the chances of having another is higher. I would really consider talking to your partner tho as pregnancy after MC is hard and lonely and having that support is really helpful. I hope all goes well. X

I also got my first positive a week before my period was due and there's definitely only 1 baby in there so I wouldn't worry too much x

Thanks @eastview that’s reassuring to know there’s only one despite testing early. I think if I told him I was pregnant and then found out it was twins he’s be looking for the nearest cliff!!

Hey is there any update @Libmama ? :) I have faint positive after 3 miscarriages

Hi @youngiesophie Im still pregnant at the minute so still feeling positive. I’ve booked an early scan which is in two weeks so I’ll be about 8 weeks by then.
Still obsessively knicker checking for blood though! Hope everything is ok for you.

That’s amazing news @Libmama im so happy for you 🥹 Hope your scan goes great you’ll have to keep updated :))) I would have no idea how far along I am because my last bleed was my miscarriage but I’d say I’m 3 weeks because it’s just starting to show on tests ☺️Not very optimistic bc I’m so used to miscarriages but oh well lol