Success stories after miscarriage?

[pinkblush29]

Hi - 2 previous miscarriages. PCOS & on clomid. 4 weeks pregnant with baby no2.

I would like to read some positive successful stories as the anxiety is crippling me right now thinking history will repeat itself.

Also did people go for early reassurance scans?

Firstly I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriages.
I had two miscarriages after having my daughter. I then got pregnant again and was totally paranoid. I thought I was having a third miscarriage at around 7 weeks, but it was fine and I'm now holding my 4 month old. It was a very stressful time and I did have an early reassurance scan which showed things were progressing well.

I actually made a thread after my second miscarriage and there were lots of people that had been in the same boat, but had lovely success stories.
I really hope that things work out for you this time.

I totally feel for you. I had an ectopic pregnancy last year. I didn’t know I was pregnant as I had a Mirena coil in so walked around for days on end with what I thought was horrendous period pain (for context, I do a very active job working outdoors all day so the doctors were stunned that I hadn’t simply collapsed). By the time I sought medical attention, it was almost too late. I was rushed into emergency surgery - lost my baby, a Fallopian tube and almost my life to boot.

My partner and I decided to start trying to conceive as soon as we were able to as we were concerned that me being one tube down might hamper our efforts, yet within 3 months of being discharged from hospital, I was pregnant.

We couldn’t believe it and I’m now 38 weeks pregnant with my little boy. We have a C-section booked for 8 days time and we can’t wait to meet him.

Because of what happened to us last time, we were given early reassurance scans on the NHS at 6, 8 and 10 weeks followed by our normal scans at 12 and 20 weeks. However, private scans are pretty reasonably priced nowadays so if we hadn’t been offered them on the NHS, I’d have got the early reassurance ones done privately anyway just to save my own sanity.

The anxiety is crippling so I totally get your fear. I didn’t really calm down until I got to about 25 weeks when I knew there was a good chance baby would survive if he came at that point. Since then I’ve enjoyed my pregnancy a bit more.

It’s easier said than done, but it really does get better. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

@Cominghome1230

Firstly I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriages. I had two miscarriages after having my daughter. I then got pregnant again and was totally paranoid. I thought I was having a third miscarriage at around 7 weeks, but it was fine and I'm now holding my 4 month old. It was a very stressful time and I did have an early reassurance scan which showed things were progressing well.

I actually made a thread after my second miscarriage and there were lots of people that had been in the same boat, but had lovely success stories.
I really hope that things work out for you this time.

Hi thanks for your reply and well wishes and I'm glad it worked out for you eventually.

Can I ask when you had your reassurance scan and were you offered one due to your prev history or did you go private?

@Harlequin1088 firstly, congratulations. That's amazing and such a lovely success story to hear you are almost due. Good luck when the time comes and I'm sure it will be magical. :)

I'm waiting on hearing back from gynae consultant in terms of what to do next. I do hope I'll be offered early scans to monitor or I will pay privately for reassurance. I keep thinking I can't be so unlucky to have a third miscarriage but then I know it does happen. I don't feel pregnant at all and that's what worries me, although I didn't have many symptoms with baby no1 either.

Sorry to hear you are struggling and I totally get the anxiety. Week 12 was my stress week, lost my first pregnancy at 12 weeks, started to bleed and that was it. Second pregnancy no physical issues though I was stressed to hell and had early scans but DS1 was born safely at 41 weeks. Took DS1 to my 12 week scan with my third pregnancy as all seems to be going well, baby had died - one of the worst days of my life trying to hold it together while my 5yo was wondering why he couldn’t see his new sibling and DH was in a different country. Next pregnancy got hit by a car in a car park, fell down some stairs and had a massive bleed all in week 12, DS2 was born safely at home. Five years later had an unexpected pregnancy and DD was born with no dramas. Unfortunately miscarriages are more common than you think but for most people there are happy endings xx

@pinkblush29 Off the top of my head, I seem to recall the private scan places won’t scan you before 6 weeks as there’s effectively nothing to see because baby is too small. You could just book yourself a private scan (they’re about £60) and then when your consultant gets back to you, you can have a NHS one at like 8 weeks or something? It’ll put your mind at rest x

@Flatandhappy oh wow. What a time you have had indeed. I'm so sorry to hear of your losses. Sometimes it doesn't get any easier. It does help in a way to know we are not alone though and these things happen way more than we know about.

I can only continue to have hope that things may just work out this time round. I can't remember feeling any of this with my first child but I was young and naive and didn't think anything of it at the time.

@Harlequin1088 thank you. I will wait to see if I get offered an early scan with my gynae consultant first. If not then I'll probably book a scan for around 8 weeks. I do hope that due to having 2 previous miscarriages, being diagnosed with PCOS and low progesterone - that I may be offered early scans and monitored closely. Not sure how it works though.

So sorry for your losses. I lost a baby at 8 weeks and it was soul crushing, never really got over it. I've got 3 beautiful healthy children now though and never had any other issues through pregnancy. Each time I got a private scan at 6/7 weeks then an NHS reassurance scan at 8/9 (wasn't offered for dd3 so I got another private one at 10 weeks). It helped but I was still very anxious all the way through. Good luck, I really hope it all works out

Sorry to hear about your losses but congratulations on your new pregnancy.

I had a mmc in December but am now 11+2 with our rainbow baby. I have had 2 early scans through the EPAU - the first was at 6+4 and is standard in our area after 1 miscarriage.

I also had a 2nd reassurance scan with them last week because I was getting really anxious but baby is absolutely fine and growing ahead of schedule.

I would contact your EPAU - they’ve been amazing for us. We will move onto private scans after the 12 week - currently thinking of having one at around 16 weeks to bridge the gap between the 2 NHS ones.

Sending you lots of luck and good wishes!

@pinkblush29 I went private for my reassurance scan. My doctors were actually really awful about it all.
I think standard practice where I am is not to do any investigations until after the third miscarriage, but I did think the might have given me the option of a reassurance scan but they didn't. I think it was about £50 to go private. Just make sure to read the Google reviews etc if you decide to go private as some companies are better than others.