Does anyone find the phrase 'the bump' annoying and or triggering?

[lisaneedsbraces]

Hi everyone! This is my first time posting here, but I wanted to see what other opinions are.
I am 18 weeks pregnant (with my first!) and I am a larger lady...(okay I'm overweight and I like cake! )
Does anyone (or did) feel under pressure to have a bump?
I have had countless friends/family ask me have you got a bump yet? To which my reply is always, no, I just look and feel fatter than normal. Or just generally when people are making conversation they ask 'how are you and the bump?'
Is it just me being weird and finding the word bump triggering and extremely annoying, or does anyone else feel the same?
And did anyone feel under pressure by others to look physically pregnant, as I feel embarrassed that I'm not yet!
Thanks!

[quote allfurcoatnoknickers]@Herejustforthisone Agree. I HATED all the twee terminology. I bit anyone's head off who called me Mum and not my name. I am a person, not a vessel. See also:
Potty shot (you're just putting your child's genitals on the internet. Get the fucking blood test if you care that much)
Sticky bean (No. And I was supposed to be infertile. Still not cute)
Baby Bump (also no)
Baby Dancing (I'm an adult and I have sex)
Babymoon (it's a fucking holiday)
Mum (I have a fucking name. Fucking use it)

I'm slim and got downright skinny during pregnancy due to HG and still didn't have much of a bump because DS jammed himself into my back. I just looked fat for ages and used to HATE it whenever anyone referenced my bump or lack thereof. Didn't find it triggering, but did find it deeply irritating.[/quote]
What is it if it’s not a baby bump?
Why are you so bothered?

Triggering in the sense I'm not what they want me to be.

It might be a good idea to unpack this thought with a professional @lisaneedsbraces. Congratulations on your pregnancy.

I think maybe a lot of people on this thread don’t have body shapes or sizes that have been deemed unacceptable by society and which can cause you to be subjected to a lot of horrible behaviour and even abuse, or just perpetual reminders that the world isn’t made for you. The shaming people can be subjected to over their bodies can absolutely cause trauma which can absolutely be triggered.

no

This. The baby isn’t legally a baby until 24 weeks. I felt a bit weird saying baby before then (and didn’t want to use foetus), so we use bump.

Someone asking you “how are you and bump” is nice and non-intrusive. Someone touching you without permission is completely off and you need to say something, as hard as that is.

I don’t mind it in relation to the literal bump I had. I don’t really like it as a way of referring to the baby ie “how’s the bump?”
But I don’t find it massively annoying or anything, just phrasing I wouldn’t use.

I totally get where you're coming from and agree with @orangehour about the people on this thread not having experienced body shape issues.

I had a pregnancy massage early-ish on about 24 weeks and the therapist (also a friend) asked if I wanted the bump massaged and it horrified me! Why would I want someone rubbing my fat belly... there was no "bump"!

But since being 30 weeks plus and having lost a little bit of body fat, the actual bump is showing now and I'm a lot less self conscious about the word and my body. It will get better I promise 🥰