Pram superstitions still exist

[Hmum0fthree]

We've had the lovely comment today of "you can't keep the pram in the house, its bad luck!" From DH's friend who is also expecting with his wife.

I just smiled at first but when they continued to talk about it and push the idea I blurted out that keeping the pram at my parents wouldn't stop my baby from being still born if that was to happen, they didn't know were to look I then said that it is quite a nasty thing to continue telling people because if anything did happen to their baby your putting the blame on them for having the pram in the house, his wife said it was a religious thing for them and not to be offended

Uh... yeah that's not religious, it's definitely a superstition and a harmful and ridiculous one at that. Don't take any notice :)

We didn't get much baby stuff at all before our children were born. This wasn't about superstition.
It's because if anything did go wrong then you have a house full of things reminding you of your loss.

This is the sort of thing DM still believes.
I will need the pram before the baby is born so I don't know where she expects me to keep it if not in the house.
Which religion forbids prams in the house?

Didn’t know this particular old wives tale, I have to say. I’m 37 weeks pregnant with my first and have had a second hand pram gifted to me by an kind acquaintance stored in my spare room for several months now.

Bugger.

@fairgame84 I think she just said that as she felt awkward, I think they are sikh or hindu not 100% sure.

DH was actually raised as a traveller and said they believe in this superstition but his words "its a load of sh•t"

@Harlequin1088 We have had a new pram in the house with all 3, this time we needed a single to double so have actually used this pram already for DS as we got rid of our old buggy.

Its a ridiculous thing to say to a pregnant woman and the fact some people believe it to be fact is even more ridiculous!

@Grumpyoldpersonwithcats

We didn't get much baby stuff at all before our children were born. This wasn't about superstition. It's because if anything did go wrong then you have a house full of things reminding you of your loss.

This ^

We bought a pram, but didn't take delivery until after the baby was born. I can't imagine anything worse than losing your baby late in pregnancy and then having to deal with all the baby stuff at home.

It originated during a time where loss, especially in childbirth, was more common so I can see why people might have believed it and passed it down. That being said, if we go by that theory, surely it's the same for the cot or any baby items? It's just not feasible to not have anything before a baby is born.

I'm not sure what religion that is, never heard of it being part of Christianity but think it might be more of an alignment with some old fashioned views perhaps?

@Grumpyoldpersonwithcats

We didn't get much baby stuff at all before our children were born. This wasn't about superstition. It's because if anything did go wrong then you have a house full of things reminding you of your loss.

Same^

I'm 36 weeks and we've just put the moses basket together. I was even skeptical as I thought it was too early to do any of that.
We won't be getting a buggy until after the baby's here as you just never know what can happen and I couldn't cope with seeing all the things in the house that was meant for them

I’ve got a friend that had bought absolutely everything for her baby, at the 20 week scan they found out there was so many problems with the baby she had to have a termination! She’s still staying with family because although everything has been removed from the house she still can’t face going home!

Some people of superstitious and some people find superstitions profoundly irritating. They made the faux-pas here OP, by going on about your pram being in your house. You couldn’t take them going on and on about it and blurted out your own perfectly reasonable viewpoint on the situation. They are not wrong to not want a pram in their house before their baby is born. You are not wrong to have one. Don’t worry about it anymore. They probably won’t change their opinion but they might be less pushy about their viewpoint with others now you’ve pointed out a horrible flaw in their logic…

@ATeddybearshortofaPicnic I truly hope so! I had a friend that lost her baby at the end of her pregnancy and the thought of anyone saying something like that to her before she lost her son is upsetting to think about.

I really hate it as there's always the underlying implication that if something happens to your baby, you've caused it. There's a nasty undercurrent of blame in it, like you're 'asking' for something to happen.

@Whattodonowadays that is heartbreaking

We haven't bought a lot mainly due to the fact its our 3rd and we know it doesn't get used / they grow out of it.

My my said this to me and I was think what. It goes back when child death was more common so superstition started. I said to mum got to have a car seat when born and she was like what. I said the hospital don't let you just walk the baby out lol modern day lol