Feeling unattractive and unsupported during pregnancy

[Shxnnxn]

This is my first pregnancy. My partner hasn't had much interest in me since.

Recently, I've been feeling extremely unattractive and when I told him how I felt he began fighting with me and screaming at me.

He sarcastically told me everything is his fault.

I didn't tell him to put the blame on him, but instead to just have some support. I feel extremely alone and I'm not sure if this is normal. He isn't interested in holding me, kissing me or anything and I just feel disgusting.

No this isnt normal at all in a healthy relationship. He sounds horrible and abusive to be honest. How is your relationship like usually? Does he care for you, is kind, supportive, happy to compromise and be part of a team?

Have to disagree with previous poster in that yes it's very normal for fathers to be to actually be very detached from pregnancy. I was quite upset during my first pregnancy about how Unengaged my husband was, how he didn't seem to want to touch the bump or talk about anything really. He'd become quite upset if I pointed it out.
He was the same with my second pregnancy which came on the back of many losses and a lot of IVF and very likely the last pregnancy I'll ever go through

Men just don't experience pregnancy the same way we do - emotionally or physically. they have zero connection to it really other than probably feeling a sense of impending panic about fatherhood but without having any of the hormones and attachment that we do as we experience growing a baby inside of us? The baby is an abstract idea until it actually arrives. You can't force him to engage as otherwise you'll just end up with a response like you recently had

It's definitely not "very normal" for a man to have no interest in supporting his partner who's carrying his baby.

I do believe whether baby was planned or not can play a part in reaction but a partner should always be supported as its takes two so equal responsibility. Truly shocks me when people plan a pregnancy and think it's normal that their partner has no interest 🤯.

I too have felt the same way as you are right now (off my own insecurities) and it really isn't much to expect a partner to give you some understanding and reassurance when you already feel vulnerable.

From what he responded with "All my fault" it sounds like he feels under alot of pressure. Maybe both sit down and speak about things if you can get him too. Also get the impression that he's stopped being affectionate since you fell pregnant?

Definitely not normal and I'm sorry he's treating you that way :(

OP didn’t say her partner isn’t interested in touching the bump. She says he isn’t interested in touching, hugging, kissing HER. And that he screamed at her when she told him it was making her feel unattractive. No that is not in any way normal, OP for a man to scream at his pregnant partner because she asks for a bit of support and affection. My DH couldn’t have been less interested in ‘connecting with the bump’ for any of my pregnancies but he was kind and supportive and affectionate to me, has never screamed at me and would be horrified at the thought of anyone being aggressive to a pregnant woman. There’s a big difference in those things.

Screaming at your pregnant partner isn't normal. Maybe he struggling the idea of being a father in which case he should be getting help with that, not making his partner feel bad.

Men just don't experience pregnancy the same way we do - emotionally or physically. they have zero connection to it really other than probably feeling a sense of impending panic about fatherhood but without having any of the hormones and attachment that we do as we experience growing a baby inside of us? The baby is an abstract idea until it actually arrives. You can't force him to engage as otherwise you'll just end up with a response like you recently had

That's just not true sorry. Don't know which men you are referring to. But hasnt been my experience at all personally or around me.

OP no it's not normal. Whether he feels connected to the pregnancy or not you are partners and he should support you and make you feel good. Not being affectionate is one thing, screaming at you is something else though. You need to have a serious talk...