Time off please read

[eastview]

Not sure how to write this really but just looking for some advice regarding work. I am 23 weeks pregnant and have had a fairly decent amount of time off in my first trimester due to HG which I am still suffering from. This has gotten much better now and have been ok to work. However, I have had my anatomy scan and they found some issues with baby girls brain. I've had to have 4 full anatomy scans done and appointments with fetal medicine now have to have an MRI in 2 weeks. I came back to work today and I just feel like I can't cope. I've had an ectopic pregnancy and a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks and the anxiety of this baby possibly being unwell is too much to deal with. I feel like I can't be off sick again as I've had so much time off and don't want to be seen as taking the p*ss. At the same time I work in customer services and the thought of talking to people about absolute rubbish is just a bit much for me as my head is everywhere right now. Can I ask opinions on what you would do/ own experiences please?

Speak to your GP / midwife and explain what you've said here

If you need it, take the time off x

If you aren't well enough to work, you aren't well enough. The time off for HG won't count towards any of your triggers because it's pregnancy sickness. I guess this time it would go down as stress so it might count.
Have you discussed maybe reducing hours or responsibilities? That might help you keep working but cope better.
Hope you're ok and baby is OK.

Definitely get signed off. You’re under immense stress and still have HG. Rest, rest, rest.

Oh @eastview I’m so sorry to hear all the struggles you have had . You are absolutely due some time off with everything you have going on but I also understand the worry of others thinking you might be taking the mick ( you are 10000% not!). Would it make you feel better asking for some kind of supervision/chat with your supervisor/manager to explain your backstory and what is currently happening both to make sure you are being given enough support; give them an understanding and clear message of why you have to take this time and will need to more. Have they been understanding so far?

Have you also spoken to your GP about ‘sick notes’ ? it’s often not necessary but sometimes can give you that piece of mind that work know this is medical not just you taking a ‘wee rest’. Look after yourself!

Thank you everyone. Work have been really supportive (when I say supportive they aren't pestering me all of the time or making me feel bad for being off at all). I feel like the biggest pain for them. I have been with them a little under a year and probably have been nothing but a headache since November when I found out I was pregnant (had 0 days off sick before this). I also don't get paid for being off sick which is another factor but I don't feel like I can cope mentally. As I am working from home it feels like I should be doing more as I don't actually have to see people (although I do have to speak to customers). It's also worth noting that my partner has autism so not only do I have to deal with my emotions during this but I also do a lot for him too and have to help him manage his feelings. It's been a rough time and maybe being off for a while will do me some good. I will request a meeting today to discuss my best options for now. Thanks for the advice x