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So scared about scan tomorrow.

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mower · 06/01/2008 10:44

Got a scan tomorrow after a weeks wait of being told only 50% chance baby will be ok and not to get my hopes up.
Have done so well all well with not thinking about it but yesterday and today seem so scary as it dawns closer, I feel in some ways I just don't want to know. I certainly don't want to look at the scan going to ask if they can turn the screen around. It will be transvaginally which is so awful and undignified too.
I know things will not be ok, hcg levels were low and didn't double and don't think I am right for dates, they saw a 5 week sack last time, but not heartbeat. Know the exact day I conceived but don't know how to work out how far gone I should have been.
Sorry to blur out but feels better just writing it down!

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frogger77 · 06/01/2008 10:47

So sorry you are feeling this way mower. Dont have anything helpful to add just wanted to let you know I will be thinking of you tomorrow. x

constancereader · 06/01/2008 10:52

God I am so sorry to hear you are having to go through this. Have you any plan about the way to spend the rest of today? Having something to do might help the time pass a little easier.

mumofk · 06/01/2008 12:54

The wait is so horrible. When you go for your scan let them know how you feel. I do these scans, and TBH unless there's a heartbeat and all looks well, I wouldn't turn the screen around to show you without asking you, but make your wishes clear from the start.
Please keep in mind that we would never like to give you false hope, so really have to let you know it might not be ok- BUT nobody knows.
So often when ladies KNOW their LMP and when they did it (including me!) and therefore we know what we should be seeing, the scan picture can still say 2 weeks different. I can't explain it very well, but I convinced myself I was having a miscarriage because I scanned myself and what I saw was 2 weeks out- an empty sac when I KNEW I should be seeing a heartbeat. Spent ages panicking, 2 weeks waiting (off work with stress, couldn't cope with happy pg ladies) then couldn't believe it was actually ok.
I don't know all the details of whats happening to you, and there could be more details that could make everything less likely to be ok (bHCGs are a good guide, but pg can still be ok even if don't double, its just doubling is such a clear sign it is likely to be ok).
Sorry, a scan is most likely way to be sure unless you know you're miscarrying, and really hate to say it but 7 days later may not be enough time to be sure- sometimes we may suggest another scan in another weeks time to find out
If you are REALLY unsure about going tomorrow, you can decide to put it off, even a few days, if you really aren't ready to find out. This process is aimed to help you, but if the timescale is making you more upset then YOU can say you're not ready yet.
Early pregnancy is SUCH a worrying time, I'm so jealous of people who don't find out for months.
I really hope you're able to keep your mind busy on something else today (I know, can be impossible). And hope you feel ready to cope with whatever the outcome is.
thinking of you,
mumofk

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mower · 06/01/2008 15:23

Thanks so much for your replies. Mumofk I will make sure I let the doctor know I don't want to see the screen, it was visable last time I went. Am also prepared for him to say come back in a weeks time.
In someways am hoping that all is not well with the pregnancy, sounds weird I know, but my youngest has only just turned 1 and he has a congential heart condition is fine now after his op you wouldn't know. But am so scared that the low hcg levels and not being right size may be down to another congential heart baby, know this is probably not the case but had bleeding and hcg levels checked, early scans and all that malarkie with my 1 year old.
Would love to have a pregnancy that just has no complications which I feel right about!

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poppy34 · 06/01/2008 15:41

mower - I really feel for you as must be dreadful waiting. Have you got an early scan (I'm just thinking in addition to what mumofk said re saying how you feel to scanner etc that you maybe shiould mention it to receptionist - frankly having to wait in a room full of happy pregnant people is the final straw).

mumofk v.sensible - it may be ok - bad feelings don't necessarily mean bad news (but I also do understand how comforting it is to trust your instinct.

fingers crossed for you tomorrow x

Lcy · 06/01/2008 18:17

Hi Mower - sorry you are having such a dreadful time waiting. I wish you lots of luck and hope it works out ok. I know what you mean about the internal scan by the way - but atleast it will get you answers xx

PeachyHasAFiggyPudInTheOven · 06/01/2008 18:20

If you really want to know where you should be, google BBC pregnancy calendar and it will give you a site that will work it out for you based on date of conception.

Sending best hopes for tomorrow and thinking fo you.

mumofk · 07/01/2008 21:22

Hi mower, just to say still thinking of you and hope today wasn't too traumatic for you.
Hugs,
mumofk

yellowbean · 07/01/2008 22:18

mower, hi... i remember you from when we were expecting our last babies... i was spinach then... we were both going through very tricky early pregnancy stages in march 2006. how are you, what happened today, hope you are okay, xxx

Lcy · 08/01/2008 09:16

Hope you are ok x

BetsyBoop · 08/01/2008 23:15

hope you are okay

{hugs}

frogger77 · 09/01/2008 11:05

Hope you are ok mower please let us know how you got on. Thinking of you. x

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mower · 11/01/2008 14:43

Hi All
Had scan, the sack had grown but no baby or fetal pole. Have to wait another 10 days and go back again for another scan just to check for def. I am feeling fine emotionally (I think!) but physically still feel sick, tired and pregnant.
Its such a strange feeling as I know that I am not pregnant in so much that there is no baby but still feel crap.

Yellowbean wow how are you? Our babies are 1 now. My ds is fine now but was born with a cogential heart problem. He has had an operation and will just need to be checked for the rest of his life. You wouldn't know it to look at him he is massive and just as active as his brother!

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tryingnottoobsess · 11/01/2008 14:56

Good luck Mower. I'm in a similar situation and am waiting for my 'lets see in a week' re-scan (I posted it on another thread as i hadn't seen this one, and everyone has been lovely) and just wanted to say I have my fingers crossed for you and hope all is well.

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mower · 11/01/2008 15:28

Sorry to hear you are going through this as well tryingnottotobsess. Its the pits. I feel I may be quite hard the way I am dealing with it but its the way I do I suppose. I just want it out now and not to feel pregnant for a bit! Have just stopped bf ds2 so am looking forward to my body being my own again to heal emotionally properly. Have small age gap between my ds so have been pregnant or breast feeding for exacetly 3 years now! Whilst I do feel sad about loosing this baby I am looking forward to letting my body heal then planning another baby. This all feels a little too easy at mo, really hope I don't come crusing down as an emotional wreck.

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NatalieJane · 11/01/2008 15:36

Hi Mower (and Yellowbean again )

Don't know if you will remember me but we were on the same TTC boards last time.

I am so sorry about all this I have had a MC this week, so kind of know how your feeling.

I would be prepared for the emotions to take over, I was OK for the first day, but then been in bits since. It is only today really that I have managed to drag myself out of it enough to function a bit.

My thoughts are with you xx

yellowbean · 12/01/2008 20:08

hi nj and mower, so sorry to hear your news... think i was probably pregnant too as i did get a positive test, but must have been a very very early loss as i am def not preg now. don't really know what to think about it as it wasnt planned and was all a confusing strange time.

sounds like you two have had it rough though, thinking of you both. i re read our old antenatel thread... had a small cry! xxx

NatalieJane · 14/01/2008 08:26

How is it going Mower? Hope you are being kind to yourself

And how are you Yellow?

Seems to be so many people going through it these last couple of weeks, maybe there are always as many but never taken this much notice before? It is so sad.

I expect the re-reading of the ante-natel board brought back a few giggles

yellowbean · 14/01/2008 20:34

i'm fine, havent seen mower about on any threads for couple days. how are you nj? I'm fine, just need to get past all this, has been a very strange experience that has made me stop and think. the ante natal threads were nice to re read actually... especially the thread you started when you got your bfp.

mower and tryingnottoobsess: i hope you're both okay, waiting for scans is an awful time... how do you both feel... how far along do you think you are... if its early then its is possible to miss baby and f.pole untill about 8 weeks.... fingers crossed for you xx

caitlinnjacksmummy · 15/01/2008 09:20

Hi mumofk, could I ask u something pls? I am either 10 weeks+1 or 12 weeks +4, had an early scan thinkin i was nearly 9 weeks but turned out the sonographer told me i aws only nearly 7 weeks, so 2 weeks behind, which would now make me 10+1, LMP was 19 october, she sed i may have conceived later than thot, but was also told i was a week out at an early scan with my DS, now 10 months and he caught up by 12 week scan, I have bn told to keep my original due date tho 25 july until have my 12 week scan on 1st feb, is it possible that when I go for scan i may be 14 weeks stead of 12? Sorry t ask jus v confused. And to everyone having early scans with not so good results chin up pls, I have also bn thru 2 miscarriages in the past, one a missed miscarriage, which I found out about at my 12 week scan which ws heartbreaking so I know how u r all feelin , good luck and thinking of u all xxxx

NatalieJane · 15/01/2008 09:56

LOL Yellowbean, just re-read that thread, all the anticipation, seems like a life time ago!

I am doing OK thanks, DH really made me pull my socks up over the weekend, I had a big cry and said things I hadn't said to him about it all before and we have been putting some pretty radical plans in place for the next couple of years which has given me something to focus on, and we have also decided to give it till DS1's birthday (in March) and then make a final decision on whether we are going to try again. He says I need the time between now and then to let my head clear and I agree. If we decide to go ahead and have another, we will be back to the TTC boards, doing it all again! No crappy predictor test's this time though!!

Hope you are doing OK Mower xxx

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