22 weeks and worried already

[Mizzi1904]

I think I've spent so long trying to get pregnant (2.5 yrs) then is everything healthy (20 wks), that I haven't really thought about the next stage. Now I'm very worried.

Hubby is a useful person so everyone is constantly asking him to do things/solve their problems, and his phone is never quiet - when he is at home that is. He has already said nothing will change and he is right - people just won't help themselves and he likes helping them (most of the time).
We almost never get help so we do everything for ourselves, so now I'm worried that I'm going to have this baby and I'll be doing it all on my own as he won't be here. I don't feel like I can cope with a tiny person on top of work, housework, and keeping everyone else happy! Work has already said they won't leave me be on whatever amount of maternity I get, and my boss thinks my work will magically get done by itself!

I have no idea what my body will look like after a baby as no one gives me a straight answer, so now I'm wondering what on earth made me think getting pregnant was a good idea?!?!

I know this sounds dramatic but I just dont know what to do. Is anyone in the same boat? Any ideas if we ever look normal again after birth? Do you ever have money again? Are babies really restricting or do you still get to do little things for yourself?

He has already said nothing will change and he is right - people just won't help themselves and he likes helping them (most of the time).

Quite frankly, you need an open discussion now about where his priorities will be. It should be with his family and being helpful to you and your child.

Any ideas if we ever look normal again after birth? Do you ever have money again? Are babies really restricting or do you still get to do little things for yourself?

Yes your body can mostly go back to normal however your body may change a little. It'll have gone through a lot but it made and birthed a tiny human which is what you need to focus on in the early days.

For us, money was tight until the start of full time education as childcare is expensive.

If you have a partner who is prepared to split things equally then life changes, priorities change but we can still enjoy a pub lunch, shopping, days out but just require more planning and thought which changes slowly as they get older. If you have family and friends to babysit, this also helps too. I'd get my hair done with someone looking after my DC (only because it takes hours and it's not relaxing then interrupted for feeds, etc.) but would go and get my brows done and DC should sleep in the pram or look around from birth to 2ish. I would still go on a night out and a weekend away with friends occasionally (the frequency was my choice) but increased once my DC was 3 when I felt more comfortable doing my own thing. Your baby can fit around you to an extent, your life isn't over but it will be different.