Anyone else really fed up with rude comments regarding size?

[windy2909]

I really feel like I need a rant! In the last few days I’ve been told I am “massive” and told there are beached whales and then there is me 😢 by two different people. It is so hurtful! I am fully aware of how big I am but it stings to hear it. I have 8 weeks left to go and I’m aware I’m going to get even bigger. I am fully aware that I have a massive bump, I have to carry it around with me 24/7 and don’t need thoughtless people reminding me of the fact….as if I don’t know!

Am I on my own experiencing such thoughtless (and vocal) people?

I had similar comments from people during my pregnancies. I carried a lot of water with my second and had some really negative comments. People should mind their own business!!

F**k off really might be the only way to respond to these people.

I've never been phased by comments like this, in fact I generally think people are way too sensitive to off the hand comments/small talk. But oh my god I finally get it. I'm so over people commenting on my size!!!! But the other way. I'm 34 weeks with twins and keep being told how small I am. Everything hurts so much and is so heavy, and I feel like people are really belittling it. "Oh I was bigger than you with my singleton"... Such bollocks.

I can't believe anyone has used the phrase beached whale to you. That's beyond awful. I'm so sorry OP. Are you actually measuring big?

Oh mate, it’s crap, I had it with both my pregnancy’s. People just think it’s acceptable to say whatever they want regardless of your feelings.
I used to get ‘are you REALLY sure it’s not triplets?’ Bloody stupid thing to say if you ask me.

However, I’m out the other side with two beautiful big babies (who tower over me now) and the spiteful words were long forgotten as soon as they were born and you will forget this nonsense too once you’ve got that bubba in your arms.

Either rise above it or hit back with ‘oh baby bump! I didn’t know you were expecting too!’ And see if they like you commenting on their body! X

Thanks for the lovely comments. So sorry you’ve experienced being on the receiving end of such insensitive comments. Yes I am measuring bigger. I was big with my first but definitely bigger this time.

I feel like saying to them “yes - but I won’t be this size forever but you will be an insensitive @£&! for the rest of your life!”

@windy2909

Thanks for the lovely comments. So sorry you’ve experienced being on the receiving end of such insensitive comments. Yes I am measuring bigger. I was big with my first but definitely bigger this time.

I feel like saying to them “yes - but I won’t be this size forever but you will be an insensitive @£&! for the rest of your life!”

It would be fun to see their reaction but then they will probably accuse you of being ‘overly sensitive’ or ‘hormonal’ or some other such tripe to ease their guilt!

Oh my, I totally get this. I'm 38 weeks and my baby is running large according to scans. I'm sick of family members commenting on how huge my bump is and insisting on looking at it for their own considered analysis. I snapped last week and asked if maybe everyone could take turns in showing their belly. That soon stopped the conversation

But in all seriousness, it really annoys me too, especially as I have a history of body image issues (that people know about too). For some reason people just stop seeing "you" and see the bump as almost some sort of external presence, open for public comment.

I don't have a lot of advice, just sympathy! And I guess it's a cliche to say but also true: as long as you and bub are healthy then that's really all that matters! X

I had comments last time asking if I was sure there was just one in there, another when saying I'm just 30 weeks then comment on my size and that my baby will be massive. I gritted my teeth last time, but not so sure I will this time. If I commented on their weight or physique they certainly wouldn't think it was ok, so why is it ok to do it to a pregnant woman 🙄

I had this with my twin pregnancy. Admittedly I was bloody huge, but I couldn’t do anything about it! Two women in the supermarket said something really nasty about the size of me in earshot (can’t remember what now) but it made me full on cry in the supermarket. I had loads of comments about how I must be overdue to which I’d have to say that I still had another 3 months to go, only for them to recoil in horror. This was generally followed by comments of double trouble, rather you than me, and tales of how I’m basically going to die from lack of sleep and my life will be utterly shit for eternity left me feeling like a super freak.

@ReeseWitherfork congrats on the twins! Just in case you come back to the thread and see my comment, you won’t die from lack of sleep and twins are awesome

Wow! I don’t know how anybody could think it was acceptable to say such things to a pregnant woman?!

I totally agree, I don’t think half of these comments would be made to someone who had just put on weight. Yet it seems to be perfectly acceptable to say what you like to/about someone who is pregnant!

I’m trying to take comfort in the fact that people like this are in the minority and most people are really lovely.

Agree it’s very rude, as is commenting on a ‘small’ bump.

But don’t think comments on other people’s bodies are limited to pregnancy, eg see the many MN threads about it.

Yep, I'm the same as you, 8 weeks left and I'm huge. I know I'm huge, there's no need to keep pointing it out! FIL in particular seems to make the "joke" almost every day that "I'm sure you've put on some weight!" And, like, I haven't really 🤷‍♀️ Technically I weigh more of course, but I'm still in my normal size knickers, it's just the bump that's big. I'm quite a petite person so I don't know where else the baby could go! It's only in the front too, when I see people I haven't seen for a long time they first comment on how well I look, but then as soon as I turn sideways they start gawping at the size of me.